How To Avoid Falling In Love With The Wrong Guy, Per Your Zodiac Sign
He's not the one. Not even close.
weheartit Sometimes falling in love is easy — too easy, in fact. We like someone and they like us back and suddenly it feels as if love is imminent.
But lasting love doesn't happen in an instant. You may feel something when you look across the crowded room and see that a man is staring back at you, but the probability that it’s a love that will stand up to change, problems, complications, and issues isn’t good.
We get infatuated and it’s a delicious feeling. For many of us, that initial excitement of meeting someone and feeling that chemistry is amazing and we want it to continue, so we convince ourselves that it’s love. But it’s not love — or at least not a grown-up love.
You can be drawn to someone, have a crush on them, and think that what you feel will last forever but it probably won’t. When your need for love overrides all logic, that’s when the greatest mistakes are made, and you can find yourself falling for the wrong guy.
Once you’ve decided that this person is the one and nothing your brain says will convince your heart, you try to force whatever it is that you’re feeling into love. You ignore the red flags, and you stop listening to your friends and family who don’t want you to get hurt, so they try to open your eyes so you’ll see that the person you think you’re falling in love with is completely inappropriate and that no matter how hard you try it never will be.
The sooner you can start being honest with yourself, the better. Why are you spending so much energy trying to make this disastrous relationship work? What’s the message here? Is it about self-esteem? Do you think that you’re not worthy of holding out for someone better or someone who will treat you well?
Astrology knows what you need to do to stop falling for the wrong guy all the time. And depending on your zodiac sign, here's what you should do.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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Now is the time to distract yourself. You know he's taking up too much of your brain power just thinking about him, so you need to divert your attention. Participate in some new activities, plan some upcoming adventures, and maybe make some new friends. Every time you want to think about him, try to think about something that makes you happy and has nothing to do with him.
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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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The best you can do to prevent yourself from getting too attached to the wrong guy is to stop cyber stalking him. There's a lot of satisfaction that one can get by staying updated on someone's personal life but that satisfaction can lead to obsession. The more you check his Facebook page or Instagram, the more you'll feel as if you know them and the more attached you'll feel. Try to limit the number of times you check their social media and work on lowering that amount until your connection is broken.
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GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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To stop falling for the wrong guy, you need to discontinue the long conversations, the late-night texts, and the messages. Stop sharing with him your private details. You don't want to get emotionally involved with him because that will only lead to thinking you're building a real love with him. You know he's not the one and honestly, he doesn't deserve your attention, your witty remarks, or your advice. Hang up on the connection you have with him, permanently.
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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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At this point, you've known real love before or at least you've known what you don't want, so you know this guy isn't relationship material. Ask yourself what is the best-case scenario for the two of you: A fling, a friendship, or just a friendly acquaintance? You know you don't want to get emotionally invested in him because it's almost as if you're handing him your heart and demanding that he stomp all over it. It doesn't have to be love to have merit — maybe he came into your life to highlight what it is that you really want in a partner.
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LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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You've mistaken lust for love a number of times, so this time, you're going to hold out for the real deal. If you find yourself falling for the wrong guy, make a list of his flaws and instead of focusing on the bright side, focus in on the negative, dark side. Every time you encounter this guy, remember how he's hurt you in the past or how embarrassed you were when he did something inept or cruel. Go over in your mind all the reasons he's not right for you.
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VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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You need to take a step back and stop worrying that if you let this guy go, you'll be alone forever. He's not the one but that doesn't mean you won't ever met the one. Do a little research and figure out what you're looking for in a relationship and the steps you need to take in order to create it. Once you put your brain power to work and understand that finding someone is a challenge you're completely up for, you won't put so much pressure on yourself to love the guy who really isn't right for you.
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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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He seems to love you and you hate being alone, so when he wants to spend time with you, you agree. You need to stop being a people pleaser. It's more than okay to turn down a date from him and, if you have to, be rude to him. If you get too comfortable in this lackluster relationship, you'll get lazy and won't want to expend any energy finding Mr. Right.
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SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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When you're having sex with this guy, you can almost convince yourself that it's love. But afterward, when you think about him and how he treats you outside of the bedroom, it's clear this isn't a relationship at all. You need to stop being intimate with him; in fact, try to avoid touching him at all. You have great physical chemistry but every other department is lacking. A lasting relationship needs more than just great sex and you need to prevent yourself from getting addicted to having sex with him.
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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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You know that you can't be swayed by someone who seems to be doing all the right things if there are no real emotions behind his actions. Sure, he gave you flowers but would he listen to you if you were unhappy about something or take you to the doctor if you needed him to? You need to take off those rose-colored glasses and see things as they are and as he really is. If there's nothing there, you need to move on.
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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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You know one of the best and scariest ways to avoid falling in love with the wrong guy is to talk to him about it. Ask him honestly where he sees the relationship going and what his plans are for the future. Chances are that seeing the panic on his face or the backpedaling he'll do will help convince you that he's not the one and what you were feeling probably had more to do with you than him. You can even ask for his help to get over him.
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AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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You're able to find something interesting and good in almost everybody, which doesn't help you narrow down your search for the right person. You need to trust your gut and when it tells you that you shouldn't be falling in love with someone, you need to trust it. You know that you need to avoid and/or ignore any attention they give you. If you need to put some distance between you, then do so. Go on that trip to Ibiza you've been wanting to go on. One way to get over Mr. Wrong is to have a fling with Mr. Two Weeks in Paradise.
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PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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If you feel that you need to stop yourself from falling for the wrong guy, you must listen to your inner voice which is screaming that he isn't good enough for you and he's not treating you the way you deserve to be treated. Remind yourself that you deserve to have someone who fantastic and wonderful, not just some guy who borrows your car and brings it back with a dent and an empty gas tank. Hold out for someone better.
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