If You're Not Cliterate (Or Don't Even Know What That Means), Do NOT Have Sex

Don’t worry, it’s not your fault. Most people don’t learn how to be cliterate when they get their sex education. Take a deep breath, my friend, because you can still learn.

According to sex therapist and New York Times bestselling author, Ian Kerner, “Being cliterate is understanding female sexuality, privileging female sexuality, respecting female sexuality.” 

Honestly, you should take it from him because this man knows a whole lot about pleasuring the ladies. In fact, he even wrote a book about it called She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman.

Unfortunately, when it comes to sex education, female anatomy and pleasure are largely neglected. While women are having sex all the time, it’s not exactly consistent with them having satisfaction or actual pleasure. In fact, orgasm isn’t even the tell-all event of pleasure. It is a lot more complicated than that and involves relaxation, presence, fantasy, and awareness.

Understanding the female anatomy is important for women to pleasure themselves and for the partners of women to bring them to the ultimate bliss.

“As many as three-quarters of women can’t orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. In fact, just eight percent of women can reliably orgasm this way, studies estimate. An 'ilcliterate' individual might write off such information as proof that women just aren’t as sexual as men or that their bodies aren’t hardwired for pleasure. But women who are in same-sex relationships have similar orgasm counts to men and achieve climax in the same amount of time as their hetero male counterparts. The same is true when women pleasure themselves. Women’s bodies are not the problem. The problem is that most of us don’t have a full understanding of how they work,” an article on Huffington Post states.

In an effort to shed a little more awareness about becoming cliterate, here are some facts that you might not know:

• The clitoris has double the nerve endings that the penis does.
• The clitoris has executive tissue that will swell when a woman is aroused.
• The structure of the clitoris is actually close in size to the penis.
• The clitoris is located outside of the vagina.

There’s a lot more to learn, everyone. So, whether you want to pleasure a woman or you are a woman who wants to pleasure herself, it’s time to get cliterate. Watch this video to learn more:

Sex Education: The Missing Chapter on Vimeo