We Asked Men What They REALLY Think About Going Down On You
"I personally love to. Some guys don't, but that is their loss."
weheartit While a lot is said about the art of the blowjob, we don't always give enough attention to the reverse — when our partner is going down on us and performing cunnilingus. When great, it's really, really great.
"Nothing is more vulnerable or powerful at the same time. Connecting through glances, directions from her and moving towards orgasm is an incredibly intimate moment," one guy confided to us.
But there's a lot of factors that go into this moment. Are they doing it just to return the favor or because they really want to? How many of them are actually into it and get pleasure from it, in its own right? (Turns out, a lot of them LOVE it.) And when they do go down there, what are they hoping to experience? How can we make it better for them so they are more likely to return for a second helping?
We asked — and a lot of guys answered! — and now the only thing left to do is put all of their advice to the test. Here's what men think of cunnilingus.
1. It depends on the moment.
"It is something I fantasize about and enjoy doing, but in truth, it's not something I want to do every single time. Variety is the spice of life and sometimes I relish different sex acts. But when I do embrace savoring the taste of a woman and her essence, it's something I really get into with enthusiasm and something my partner thoroughly enjoys. The more response, the more enthusiasm and turned on I get it."
2. I enjoy it.
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"I (generally) like the feel and taste of a vagina, especially one with little or no hair and that has been well-cared for. A slight odor is okay, more odor will force finger-only stimulation. I'm okay with oral sex even after I have come inside."
3. I don't mind doing it, but it's not my favorite thing.
"I love to perform oral sex on a girl if she's really into it and if it makes her orgasm like crazy, that's fun. If she isn't really wanting it I'm totally okay with that. It's not my favorite thing to do, but I enjoy when it gets the job done."
4. It gets her instantly turned on.
"I personally love to, some guys don't, but that is their loss. There's no better way to get a girl from zero to 60 than going down on her. I once pinned a girl against a wall, got her pants off and went to town. It was lots of fun."
5. Turnabout is fair play.
"I can't expect someone to go down on me if I won't go down on them. Sixty-nine is stupid since I'm not in high school anymore, and I'd rather focus on trying to do it right."
6. It's better than sex.
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"That you can make a girl crazy with your tongue is so gratifying. Not all of us were born hung like a baby arm so this is the equalizer. I'm not going to win a big penis contest but I can make you forget I even have one."
7. I'm really, really good at it.
"I have good confidence I can bring a woman to climax, even when they are vibrator users (sometimes that makes it difficult). It is a confidence boost because while everyone is different and not everyone responds the same way, I'm told I'm pretty good at it."
8. I can get a sense of how she communicates in the bedroom.
"A great indicator of future relations: it makes me wonder what's going on down there if there's a constant refusal, it lets herself be 'taken care of', and she will eventually return the favor. Also helpful here is how communicative the woman is. If she's giving 'directions' (either direct or implied), then I suspect other horizontal communications will be open."
9. It's my favorite thing.
"I'm going to be perfectly honest: I love nothing more than doing this."
10. I will only do it if she's clean and doesn't smell.
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"I love the thought of this, I love the action, and if the girl is into it, that is amazing. However, she has to be clean (I prefer doing this in the shower) and there has to be zero smell."
11. It earns me brownie points.
"When I was younger, I think this grossed me out more. Now that I'm 46, I know how much women appreciate it, and I enjoy sharing the love, and I especially enjoy making her orgasm this way. I have enjoyed it the most when I have just taken my girlfriend almost by surprise, and almost forced her to orgasm when she least expected it. I'm earning the relationship points big time!"