What Women Should Know About Having Sex With A Man With A HUGE Penis
Don't be afraid!
Weheartit So you meet this guy and he’s everything you would ever want: strong, sexy, adorable, funny, smart … the whole package. You’re getting on great and you start making out. And you’re like, “Wow, this is gonna happen!” And happen, it does. You start touching each other. Your shirt comes off. His shirt comes off. Next is the bra. Then the pants. And then, you realize …
His penis is HUGE!!
Maybe it’s long. Maybe it’s wide. Worse — maybe it’s both.
First, take a deep breath. Big penises come on guys of all shapes and sizes. Previous pseudoscience tying penis size to shoe size and/or height has been proven false. The only thing science is now saying may predict a guy's size is index finger size relative to ring finger size. (Pretty crazy, right?) But unless you’re checking out a guy’s index finger size (*cue awkward conversation about why you’re looking at his hands*) you’re not gonna know until you get to that moment when it’s too awkward to turn away just because of he's huge.
I’m here to tell you there’s no need to turn and run.
With a little bit of knowledge and a few tips, here's how you can have sex with a very big penis without pain.
1. How does a big penis fit inside my vagina?
As I always tell friends, remember that your vagina can literally push out a baby. Like, babies are frigging huge compared to even the biggest penises. Granted, there are some potential complications that come with that, like tears and injury, but for most penises, your vagina can (usually) handle it with the right preparation, and there are a number of things you can do to get ready for it.
Everyone's body is different, including their vaginas and penises. If insertion causes you pain, please take that as your body’s cue to stop. I recommend several techniques like foreplay, relaxation, lubrication, and trying different positions, but if you are experiencing pain, please stop. You may want to consider seeing your doctor if this is the case, and definitely, do NOT push yourself past your comfortable limits.
You know your body best!
2. Make sure foreplay gets you aroused and excited before sex.
Foreplay becomes the utmost of importance in the circumstances. With smaller guys, you might be able to take all of him in, but trust me, it WILL be painful if you try to shove an extra large one in there before you’re ready.
And as you play around with foreplay — nipple play, making out, touching, hitting, tying each other up, etc. — play with his penis, too. Get comfortable with the size of it in your hands, in your mouth, and anywhere else you want to give it a try.
Basically — own that penis.
Keep in mind, however, that oral sex with a big penis is different than with an average one. Also, keep in mind that he does not (nor should he) expect you to deep throat if he’s too big. If you have a gag reflex, or if the idea of taking a whole penis in your mouth at once weirds you out (and let’s face it, no one eats a whole banana all at once), then that’s ok. The tip of the penis (especially on uncut guys) is much more sensitive than the shaft anyway.
3. Shift your mindset.
If you’re still terrified of his penis because as it gets harder and harder it just becomes bigger and bigger, take a deep breath and try to change your thinking about it. Anxiety never made an orgasm.
Imagine you’re a super sexy porn star. Picture yourself in a porno of your very own (bonus points if you actually film it). Then, know that you’re in total control of the situation.
4. Take your time putting a large penis inside you.
Once you get to the point where you feel ready to go for it, make sure you put lots of high quality, water-based lubricant on his penis and your vagina. Distract yourself as he’s entering you by continuing to make out with him or doing something with another body part (clitoris, anyone?) that will keep your mind off thoughts like, “Ow, this is going to hurt.”
If your vagina feels a bit tight when he’s first inside, ask him to stop and just kinda hang out there for a second as you expand, then slowly start going for it again.
5. Choose sex positions that give you maximum control.
For big penises, especially, when you’re inexperienced with them, I highly recommend girl-on-top positions as they allow you to control the motion and pace.
Other good positions include side-by-side positions — because neither of you can thrust that far — such as spooning (which is a doubly good position because he can’t go too deep AND you’re cuddling which releases all those feel-good hormones!).
Some people recommend missionary with your legs closed, but honestly, it’s not my fave when I’m dealing with extra large dudes. Personally, I like to have some modicum of control, which missionary doesn’t really give me.
If you’re still having trouble, continue talking to him about keeping things slow and be sure to let him know when he can come inside of you and how fast and/or deep you like it.
6. Consider your time of the month.
If you’re anything like me, there will be times in your cycle when your vagina will feel more, um, flexible than at others.
During the times of the month when you feel tighter, take it extra slow and easy with the foreplay and you’ll find you’ll still be able to take it all inside in due time.
Above all, remember that there are very few penises that will actually be too big for any one vagina.
So please don’t make the mistake I did when I was 18 and think your relationship is doomed because it seems like his penis won't fit. In reality, since we were both virgins at the time, we had absolutely no idea what we were doing.
But now you DO know what you’re doing! (You're welcome!)
Use your new knowledge wisely and you might just find that you love how deeply that big guy can penetrate!
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