The Secret Way He Shows His Selfishness, Per His Zodiac Sign

Is your guy ready for a relationship? Not everybody is at that point in their lives where they’d do well in a relationship. Sometimes they’re just too self-absorbed or self-centered to really be able to think about someone other than themselves.

There are times when we know in our hearts that we’re truly at the point where we not only want to be in a relationship, but we know that it would enrich our lives to do so. If we’re seeing someone when this happens, we look for signs that the other person is ready too.

Unfortunately, because everyone is different, you may be dating someone who isn’t looking for a relationship and is just looking for someone to have no strings attached fun with, or they may not even know that they don’t want a relationship.

When someone is unaware of their own desires or isn’t honest with themselves, the relationship is destined to be troubled until it (sooner rather than later) implodes and you’re right back where you started from: seeking a relationship. Only, this time, you know you don’t have a potential partner lined up.

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What qualities do you want in a partner? You want someone who will put your needs high up on the list, someone who really understands and listens to you, and someone with whom you share similar values and interests.

Sometimes the signs that someone isn’t relationship ready are clear and almost impossible not to notice. You can tell a lot by the way someone behaves. Look for behavior that may contradict what a person is saying. It’s tough for the body to lie.

If someone is too immature or self-absorbed, egotistical, and/or narcissistic for a relationship, you need to know before you invest any time, energy, or emotion into them. If they're too into themselves, they'll never have anything left to give you and you might end up with a selfish boyfriend.

Here's how he shows that he's just too selfish to be in a relationship, per his zodiac sign.

Aries (March 21 - April 19)

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If he goes off on his own a lot without inviting you or even considering you at all, he's definitely too self-absorbed to be in a relationship. He doesn't want or need to check in with you first, as the last thing he needs is your permission. If you confront him, he'll work on you until you accept his apology but he's not going to change his behavior.

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One

Taurus (April 20 - May 20)

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If he makes all the decisions and never asks for your input, he's much too selfish for a relationship. When you disagree or challenge him in any way and he refuses to come to a compromise, then you're not going to be able to have anything other than a casual thing with him. 

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One

Gemini (May 21 - June 20)

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You know your guy is a flirt but if he continues his non-stop flirting, it's probably a sign that he's not ready to settle down in any way. If somebody hot makes a move on him, he's not going to resist. If flirting is what he does to feel better about himself, he's not even considering how it's making you feel and you're never going to be able to trust him.

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One

Cancer (June 21 - July 22)

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This may seem a little old school, but if he rarely picks up the check, then it's an obvious sign that he's not ready to invest in a long-term relationship. Maybe he'll pay for a meal, but if he's never buying you little things — because he's thinking about you and wants to make you happy — he's not thinking about you very much at all.

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One

Leo (July 23 - August 22)

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If he's always competing with you and never supporting you, the thing you have isn't going to blossom into a relationship. You want to share your successes and happiness with him, but every time you tell him some great thing that happened at work, he tells you the fantastic thing that happened to him. Clearly, he feels superior to you and doesn't want an equal partnership, just a member of his entourage.

Read: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo, As Written By One

Virgo (August 23 - September 22)

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If he cares more about the way you look with him than the way you feel or what you think, he's too superficial for a relationship. He probably won't bring you soup when you're sick because he doesn't want to get sick himself and he's not thinking about helping make you feel better. If you're not looking your best, chances are he won't want to be seen with you. Marriage and any kind of relationship are about being there in sickness and in health.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)

Libra (September 23 - October 22)

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Does it feel as if, when you start to get close, he immediately puts some walls up? He's perfectly charming but when his defensives are activated, there's no getting past it. He's good for a laugh and maybe some sex, but anything that involves commitment isn't for him.

Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One

Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)

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If your guy acts like a huge baby when he doesn't get his way, he's not ready for a relationship. When he asks you to come over and you've got previous plans, does that lead to a meltdown? The problem is he's living under the wrong assumption that your life should revolve around him, and that's just not right. Back away, because things are going to get unpleasant and intense and will end badly.

Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One

Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)

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Does he lie to you all the time, and when that doesn't work does he just take off? He's looking for fun and doesn't want any complications. It's easier just to lie or leave, which isn't a quality you want in a partner. Enjoy his humor and his enthusiasm for life, but don't try to hold him down and force him into a relationship because he'll do whatever he needs to get out of it.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One

Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)

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If he constantly talks about his plans for the future and never once mentions you, that means he doesn't see you in it. Sure, he wants a wife but there's no indication that you're that wife. You don't want to be strung along waiting for the time that he finally sees you as his perfect partner, because he probably never will. 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One

Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)

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Does it seem as if he enjoys spending time with everyone else but you? He has his boy's nights, time for his immediate family, and even his charitable work, but he never makes much of an effort to see you and there's no mention of you participating in any of these group events. If he were ready for a relationship, he would have introduced you to his friends and family by now. 

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One

Pisces (February 19 - March 20)

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If he makes no effort at all towards you, then what you have will never be a successful relationship. Does he make sure to look good when he sees you, or does he text and keep in contact with you? How about asking about your day or what your dreams are? Relationships take work and if he doesn't even have the energy to take a shower, he's not in the right frame of mind for a relationship.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One