7 Best BDSM Sex Positions To Make Submissive Women Orgasm

If you are submissive in your BDSM play, any sex position where your date is dominant will work for these. But if you're looking to change things up and really explore kinky ways to make you and your partner orgasm, here's an opportunity to work bondage play into the mix.

With these sex positions and techniques, you'll be opened up to a whole new world of play.

1. Restraints

One common thing that really turns on many sexually submissive women is being restrained in some fashion.

"This can take the form of wrist and ankle cuffs, which then can be tied to the head and foot of the bed. This allows the man to both penetrate her, use sex toys on her, and use other sensory play such as ice cubes or feathers," says sexpert Coleen Singer from Sssh.com.

2. Orgasm Denial

In this kinky technique, the man brings her just to the point of orgasm and then stops what he is doing.

"This is called 'orgasm denial' and is a very powerful way of ramping up the energy for the actual orgasm when the man allows it a few times later in the BDSM sex session. Another variation on this is, the woman is not allowed to have an orgasm without the man’s verbal permission and, in effect, has to plead for one!" says Singer.

3. Warm Her Up First

One technique that really enhances sex for a submissive is, prior to any penetration, non-sexual sensory play is introduced.

"This can include an over-the-knee spanking or paddling which then leads to some traditional foreplay and sex toy stimulation. Once he has her utmost attention from this, she will be primed to be lead to a great orgasm (or several!)," says Singer.

4. Sensory Play

While she's restrained, lying on her back on the bed or furniture, blindfold her and then, without saying a word, randomly use sex toys on her that have a variety of tactile feels.

"A combination of hot wax and ice cubes, or alternating between rubbing her with rabbit fur and spanking her, work very well to build the anticipation of not knowing what may come next. One somewhat more advanced trick is after she's restrained and blindfolded, put a pair of nipple clamps on her (just be sure you test them out to make sure they are not too strong!). Leave them on for the entire foreplay and sex session, and then at the moment she's having an orgasm, take them off of her," says Singer. 

The rush of blood back to the nipples combined with the clitoral or G-spot orgasm can be mind-blowing.

5. Splayed

"She has fully submitted in this vulnerable sex position. Her legs are spread as widely as possible and are either held down by his strong hands or tied up. This is missionary, giving him deep access and full control. He may also want to tie her hands with her arms stretched out, submitting fully to his desires," says Antonia Hall, MA.  a psychologist, relationship expert and the award-winning author of The Ultimate Guide to a Multi-Orgasmic Life.   

6. Plunder Dog

This is a modified doggy style position, with the female lying face down and her legs minimally spread apart.

"He mounts her, putting his weight on her and holding her down as he enters her from behind. She'll have no question of who's in control in this deep access position," says Hall.

7. Bent Over Backward

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She's on her stomach, resting on her elbows with her legs stretched out.

"He sits on her thighs and enters her. Her hands can be tied together for this, and a slider bar can be used on her legs for additional restraint. This position allows him to grind into her, keeping full control," says Hall.