How To Masturbate And Have HOT Orgasms Without Any Sex Toys
Hold on to your hat, it's about to get steamy.
WeHeartIt If you masturbate using sex toys, congratulations, you are a human being who exists on planet earth, and as such, you are totally normal, run of the mill, and ordinary.
Masturbating with sex toys is a fun, exciting way to enhance your sex life and to keep you satisfied if you're worried about when you'll have your next orgasm.
Unfortunately, sometimes masturbating with sex toys can get us into a sex rut. Routine can make everything seem tired, and too much time masturbating with your favorite toys can make it difficult for you to have an orgasm any other way.
To stay in touch with your body, and to remain responsive to new stimuli, like a partner or a friend with benefits, it's important to take time out to masturbate without sex toys.
That's right, we're taking away the toys and talking about how to master manual masturbation.
1. Create a relaxing environment
We can become so inured to our environment once we've mastered how to have an orgasm using our sex toy of choice. If you remove that toy from the equation, you might find yourself needing to rediscover what works for you body and your mind all over again.
That starts with creating an environment that's relaxing to you.
For some that could mean dimming the lights, for others that could me blasting your favorite playlist. Do what it takes to create a sex haven for yourself that is separate from the everyday.
2. Romance yourself
It can be hard to romance to yourself without feeling like you are the star of some 1990s Lifetime TV Movie about a divorced mom getting her groove back. But it is absolutely possible to do, and absolutely worth it.
Learn how to seduce yourself. This could mean lighting scented candles, trailing your fingers over your skin and teasing your naked flesh, whatever romance and seduction mean to you. Hell, buy yourselves flowers and put them somewhere you can look at them while you play.
Self-care is the first step to self-love and self-love makes having an orgasm alone or partnered that much easier, and feel that much better.
3. Make sure you've got the essentials on hand
If you're used to using sex toys when you masturbate, the idea of lube for just your hand might seem silly. Trust me, it's not. The wetter you are, the better it feels. Plus there are so many of those tingly, warming lubes around these days that can help a novice manual masturbator warm themselves up to the task at hand.
You want to minimize discomfort, so keep your nails short, and everything as wet as possible, just not so wet that it messes up the friction downstairs.
4. Don't be afraid to explore in different environments
If you have tried manual masturbation in your bed or the couch with no success and just a tired arm to show for it, move things to the bathroom. The warm weightless feeling of a bath can do wonders for loosening you up downstairs. Plus, the gush from the faucet onto your clitoris is a great help in getting you to that orgasm.
Think of your faucet and the water it gushes as the training wheels to get you from using toys to being a manual girl.
5. Remember, orgasm isn't always the goal
It can be frustrating to masturbate for a long stretch of time and see no results (as in, orgasm).
But it's important not to devalue the time you spend playing with yourself, even if the final product isn't an orgasm. Any time you spend connecting with your body and your sexuality is time well-spent.
It can take a long time to learn how to feel comfortable in your own skin, and to figure out what you like and what you don't like.
Even if you don't have an orgasm, you've still taken a time out from your day that's just for you. That's time more than well-spent.