14 Ways To Give The Type Of Blowjob He Won't EVER Effing Forget
Sometimes, it's the little things that matter.
weheartit There's no one size fits all when it comes to penises. There are many ways to give fellatio, but there are some guidelines you can follow to get the job done as it were.
1. Don't think of it as a job. Be enthusiastic.
The most important factor between a good blow job and a great blow job is your enthusiasm to give your partner pleasure. It's the difference between thinking of it as a measly chore to perform in a relationship, or thinking of it as an act that will give you pleasure as much as it will your partner. There is absolutely nothing more that turns on someone than an enthusiastic partner who wants to explore pleasure with them.
2. Use a flavored lubricant.
When giving a blowjob you are naturally applying a lot of friction on the penis. Your saliva will naturally form, but to spice things up for you and/or him, use a flavoured lubricant. This will ease the friction, making the motions glide easier. You can also get a lubricant that gives a tingly feeling which can be really pleasant for both of you and heighten sensations.
3. Linger on the sensations.
Giving someone a blow job isn't a time trial, it's a performance. And with every performance, the character lingers on each scene to really get across the intense emotions they wish to convey. This is exactly how a blow job differs from being good or great. Lingering or holding the moment on exciting sensations can help to build up the intensity, and it really conveys to your partner that you want to give them all this pleasure.
4. Vary your motions.
Variation is the spice of life. You can't have a fulfilling life while doing the same old things again and again; however, not many people bring that thought scenario into the bedroom. You can do many maneuvers to enhance a blowjob so vary what you do throughout: include your hands, scrape your nails on his skin, suck hard or lightly, use your tongue with different pressures just to see what it does to your partner.
5. Take an active rest.
While going all out during a blow job, you can definitely find yourself in a bit of a pickle when your jaw locks up or you get a dry mouth. Take the time to recuperate by stroking the shaft while kissing or talking dirty into his ear, telling him what you have planned for him next.
6. Show some skin.
If there is one thing that can instantly spark up some passion, it is revealing yourself to your partner. Whether you've been in a relationship for several years or have only recently begun to date a special someone, showing off what your body is like with sultry confidence is bound to turn on your partner in a heartbeat.
Removing your clothes does several things at once: it provides an even greater visual aid for your partner to gaze at while they experience the pleasures of a blow job, it can remove the possibility of not getting your clothes all dirty when they orgasm, and it gives you the chance to experience and possibly mix certain body parts into the fray!
7. Make some noise and hone your dirty talk skills.
Showing how much you enjoy giving your partner pleasure by moaning, sighing and making noise during the act is very much a turn-on. This just shows how much enthusiasm you are putting into giving the blowjob. Showing that you're enjoying it makes it even better for them.
Another way you can show how much you enjoy performing blow jobs is by doing dirty talk. Tell them how much it turns you on, how much you enjoy their body, and what you plan to do to them. They will get so flustered and excited, it'll turn that blow job into an enthralling experience he won't forget.
8. Make eye contact.
Eye contact is immensely powerful and can really add a new dimension to the blowjob experience for your guy. When you move more of your mouth over the penis, try to catch his eye. This will help to increase the intensity. By looking at him, you will get to see the pleasure that he is experiencing which will spur you on even further.
9. Learn how to deep-throat.
Deep throating a guy involves taking the penis into the mouth and back into the throat area until the soft palate at the back of the mouth is touched. Many people find it difficult to perform deep-throating because of the natural gag reflex that occurs when the soft palate is touched.
While people have different sensitivities to the reflex, some people learn to suppress it. This can be done by focusing on relaxing the gag reflex and pushing through it. This involves pushing your tongue out, going deeper than you're used to, and holding the penis there for as long as possible.
If you do this, you will get more comfortable with it. The trick is to take it at your own pace and slowly move it into position. Be sure to put yourself in a position where you are in total control; you don't want him to start thrusting deeper while you perfect the motion.
10. Use your hands.
Just because traditionally a blowjob involves the mouth doesn't mean that your hands can't be a part of the party. Use your hands throughout the pleasure experience to caress his bum, his inner thighs, his tummy, his outer thighs. It will show that you can't get enough of his body.
You can also incorporate some hand action on the penis while simultaneously blowing him. Place your hands stacked one above the other and then lick around the shaft. If you move your hands in opposite directions, anti-clockwise and clockwise at the same time, you will really have a show going on. Make sure your grip is firm but not hurting him. And, of course, check for his reaction to see if he's enjoying it.
11. Surprise him.
It's a basic fact that the majority of men adore getting a blowjob and it's unlikely they would ever turn one down. So rather than waiting for your man to ask for one or even beg for one, take the initiative and start proceedings when he least expects it.
12. Limit the senses.
Consider blindfolding your man while you give him the blowjob, as it will heighten his senses. Use a scarf, a tie or your dressing robe belt (i.e. something soft to cut off his vision in anticipation of your blowjob). Don't let him know that you are about to give him a blow job, just ask him to trust that he is going to enjoy what's coming. Another idea would be to blindfold yourself as you perform the act.
13. Pleasure yourself for him.
Guys love watching you being turned on so what better time to pleasure yourself than when you are giving him head? While it might be a technique for the more experienced or advanced, it's still a nice thought all the same. You could even add a vibrator into the mix to do the work for you while you work on him. Get yourself into a comfortable position and you can work on both outcomes.
14. Hit his sweet spot.
The area between his testicles and his anus is called the perineum. If you massage this area during the blow job, he is likely to orgasm 10 times more powerfully. To do it nicely, just cup his balls in your palm and move your index and middle finger back to his perineum to massage that area.