4 Ways To Make Your First Pegging Experience Both Gentle And Magical

If you haven't heard about it yet, pegging is the latest awesome sex position that you absolutely need to try. But before we introduce you to these hot positions that are perfect for pegging, here are some additional tips to make the first time as comfortable as possible, as well as become better at it.

For those not familiar, pegging is a fun gender-flipping way to enjoy anal sex with a dildo. If you've fantasized about knowing what it would feel like to have your man writhing beneath you as you penetrate him, this is your chance.

The thing is, it's not nearly as new as you may think it is. If you've ever stuck a finger or a vibe in or near your man's butt, you already are doing it. And if you aren't, you should.

Anal play can open up all sorts of new sensations and experiences, and can really add another dimension to what you currently have going on in the bedroom. In fact, prostrate stimulation leads to more and longer orgasms for many men. You won't believe what you've been missing.

But as with anything else, you really should have a conversation about it before seeking out that strap-on. Discuss if it's even something you'd both be interested in. Your dude may or may not want to try it, since there's still a bit of stigma attached to receiving anal sex, especially if you're a straight man.

But if he's game and you're up for some exploration, have fun. And if you're a man eager to know what it feels like to be penetrated, feel free to open up the conversation as well. It goes without saying you should be ready to take no for an answer. And if you do hear no, that ends it. But if you hear a yes, here's how to prepare.

1. Go slow.

Just like with anal sex, this isn't an act you want to rush.

"Take your time, use lots of lube and prep the man's anus by doing some finger play or smaller vibrator/dildo play first, working his way up to an initially slender dildo to use with the strap on," says Dr. Kat.

2. Be mindful of depth and rhythm. 

Allow the person being penetrated to control the action by communicating what works for him.

"Women will discover that since they cannot feel through their strap-on, it will be hard to judge how hard or deep to go. That's why lots of open communication during the act is of the utmost importance," says Dr. Kat.

3. Use a toy that pleasures you as well.

There are now plenty of strap-ons that include embedded clitoral vibrators.

4. Know what to expect.

His erection may get softer during penetration. This doesn't mean that he isn't enjoying himself.

"When being penetrated, the pelvic floor muscles are somewhat redirected and may not allow for a full erection. Other guys may want to masturbate themselves or have their female partners do a nice reach-around hand job. Masturbation may also serve the purpose of redirecting the pain/pleasure response, making the experience more enjoyable and less painful overall," says Dr. Kat.

You may also find that watching pegging videos will help to give you ideas and wet his whistle, so to speak.