I'm A BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) And This Is Why Men Obsess Over Me
Stop lying, guys! You know you love the BBW.
Jacob Lund / Shutterstock Sure, some people have complexes about weight and feel the need to tease others, but at the end of the day I've always been cool with being a heavier gal.
And even though people have been petty many-a-time about my weight, I've never had any negative feedback from males about it.
In fact, many guys love women who are bigger, or BBW (big, beautiful women) as we call ourselves.
Before someone forms their mouth to say it's only based on the selfies that don't show any body, the interest is all from guys I've met in real life.
Drake talks about his love for the BBW in a song we're all familiar with ("Only"), and John Cena has made it known he loves the curves.
Now, all of a sudden it's "cool" for guys to express their interest in bigger women when, let's be honest, men have been loving bigger women all along.
I have years worth of messages, from praising my curves in Facebook comments to the infamous "can I have a pic?" text message.
It blows my mind that some men try to keep their love of BBW on the DL and lie about the fact they've been with particularly heavier women when, in reality, they were desperately yearning to get their thirst quenched by a curvy woman — and I have the emails to prove it!
"I know if i wouldn't have seen you on Facebook, I would've ended up finding you in the dictionary under 'Natural Beauty,'" said one admirer.
It also blows my mind that some women think their "thinness" will make a man be more attracted and loyal to them verses a bigger woman.
That's simply not the case.
Both thin and big women can be attractive. Both thin and big women can be cheated on. But more importantly, both thin and big women can be loved.
Samantha Callender is a journalist whose work ranges from entertainment to pieces highlighting social issues in multicultural communities. Her work can be seen on Essence, VIBE, Jet Magazine, The Root, Seventeen Magazine and Cosmopolitan Magazine.