The #1 Thing Standing In The Way Of Awesome Sex
According to a new study, 78% of women think this is necessary for a good sex life.
Let's face it, casual sex isn't always satisfying. If you're not in the right place for it, doing it to get over someone or having it with the wrong type of people it can be emotionally damaging — and completely awkward. If you're single and ever wondered if your sex life is lacking something then this study may just have your answer.
Pennsylvania State conducted a study by interviewing 95 heterosexual women between the ages 20-68. They found that good sex for women included love! The same ladies who felt less inhibited and more interested in exploring their own sexuality were also the ones that loved their sexual partners.
Of course there some that find casual sex fulfilling, but in this study only 18 of the 95 women believed that love was unnecessary in a sexual relationship. So what does this study show exactly?
"The connection between love and sex may show how women are socialized to see sex as an expression of love," says Dr. Beth Montemurro, associate professor of sociology to Psych Central. "On one hand, the media may seem to show that casual sex is OK, but at the same time, movies and television, especially, tend to portray women who are having sex outside of relationships negatively."
Little girls grow up with Disney princesses getting swept off their feet by prince charmings who they'll then live happily after with. We're then told by society to feel guilty for wanting to have unattached sex, or else we would be called derogatory names.
Why wouldn't that stay with us for years to come and eventually affect our sex lives?
We have definitely defended casual sex before, but it looks like a lot of women's attitudes on the matter aren't changing.
What do you think? Do you think love is necessary for a happy sex life?
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