30 Sex Role Play Ideas Couples Should Try At Least Once
You won't be able to keep your hands off each other.
LightFieldStudios, ClaireMcAdams from Getty Images | Canva Pro Ready for some sex role-play ideas to spice up your bedroom life? The one drawback to having sex with the same person over and over and over again is that it's easy to get stuck in a boring sex routine. But fortunately, there are tons of kinky sex role play ideas for couples to try in bed without going too far outside of your comfort zone.
Yes, one of the best ways to have the best sex ever is by experimenting with some hot, sexy roleplay ideas and living out your sexual fantasies. After all, if you're both open and willing to explore some fun ways to spice things up — from switching up positions to finding creative places to get busy — sex never has to get boring.
Playing sexy role play games by taking on a new identity in the bedroom might sound a little daunting at first, but it's fun, I promise!
Here are the 30 best sex roleplay ideas and kinky fantasies for couples to try in bed.
1. The repairman and the homeowner
You've got a leak to fix, and your partner's the only one who's got the right wrench. Play up the tension, like maybe the repairman "forgets" to wear a shirt, or the homeowner "accidentally" spills some water, needing a little extra hands-on help. Throw in some suggestive small talk or a little negotiation over the "cost" of service.
2. The professor and student
If you ever had a little teacher-student fantasy in your early twenties, this one's for you. Up the realism by assigning a "lesson”. Maybe it's an oral exam (pun intended) or a very hands-on tutoring session. Bonus points if you dress the part: glasses, a ruler, and a buttoned-up (or soon-to-be-unbuttoned) outfit.
3. The stripper and customer
Pick your favorite sexy song, slide on some lacy lingerie, then sway your hips and let yourself give the perfect lap dance. Set the scene with dim lights and a "no touching until the dancer allows it" rule to build anticipation.
If you're feeling bold, have your partner "pay" for each new move with whispered compliments or promises of what they'll do later.
4. The porn stars
Pick a porn you both like (that fulfills a sex fantasy you share) and reenact it together. But don't just mimic the scene. Add some playful dialogue, exaggerated moans, and a touch of over-the-top acting. Get into character as if you’re filming a real production, complete with stage names and maybe even a dramatic intro.
5. The on-camera porn stars
Kick the previous idea up a notch and actually film yourselves. Set up a sexy lighting situation, pick out the best angles, and direct each other like pros. The goal isn’t just to watch later (though that’s a perk), it’s about getting into a confident, performative mindset.
Just remember to keep your "production" safe and private!
6. The cheerleader & the football player
A classic school fantasy that never gets old. Dress up if you want, or just get into character. Maybe the cheerleader is thanking the star player for winning the big game, or perhaps the football player needs some "motivation" before heading onto the field.
Add a little playful teasing: “Do you think you deserve a reward for that touchdown?”
7. Strangers at a bar
Meet separately at a bar, flirt with others to build tension, then eventually lock eyes and start seducing each other like it’s your first time. To make it even spicier, come up with new identities: Maybe you’re a mysterious traveler and they’re a dangerous millionaire. Keep up the sex role-play even after you leave the bar (wink-wink).
8. Dominant / submissive roleplay
This one’s all about setting boundaries and pushing them just enough to create excitement. Try adding blindfolds or restraints, teasing your partner with light touches, and making them "earn" their pleasure by following playful commands.
9. Then switch to submissive/dominant
Turn the tables and see how it feels to be in the opposite role. The dominant partner can set up a challenge: Maybe the submissive has to wait a certain amount of time before being touched, or they have to ask permission before doing anything. Switching roles can help you both explore new sides of your desires during this sex role-play.
One of the best things about having sex with somebody you love is that you two can explore your sexual fantasies together. Of course, if one of you isn't comfortable with being the role of the dominant or submissive, then certainly don't push yourselves into it, but if you are feeling flexible, changing it up could be fun.
10. Role-Reversal
Is your partner usually the one leading the action during sex or always on top? Time to flip the script. If they’re always the initiator, take charge and surprise them by setting the scene, taking control of the pacing, and making them surrender to your rhythm.
11. The stars of your favorite movie
Find that one movie scene that makes you both a little hot and act it out — accents, dramatic pauses, and all. Whether it’s a steamy moment from Mr. & Mrs. Smith or a romantic-but-sexy Titanic-style painting session, role-play your favorite characters all the way to the point of having sex.
12. The famous singer and the fan
Turn your bedroom into a private concert where one of you is the rockstar and the other is a devoted fan. The singer can perform a sexy song before inviting their admirer backstage for a very special encore (wink-wink). Bonus points for using a mic (or hairbrush) for extra dramatic effect.
13. The fireman
It is a well-known fact that everyone who has ever worked for every fire department ever has been unreasonably hot. Role play a fireman rescuing a damsel in distress and then getting to know each other a bit more intimately.
Maybe one of you is stuck in a "burning building" (or just wrapped in too many blankets) and the fireman has to carry them to safety. Play up the physicality, with strong arms lifting, pinning against walls, and "checking for injuries."
14. The client and the call girl (or gigolo)
Let your partner list exactly what they wants as you act like like you're there to cater to their every need.
Maybe you "book an appointment" in advance, meet in a hotel room, and discuss exactly what services you’re interested in. It’s all about treating your partner like a luxury indulgence for the night.
15. The control freak
Have one of you lie down and the other do whatever they wants — kissing, licking, even light tickling.
The person in control gets to tease, tantalize, and deny their partner until they’re practically begging for more. Try using different sensations like ice, feathers, or warm breath to drive them wild without giving in too soon.
16. The Hollywood starlet/leading man and their secret admirer
You roleplay the sexy star and your partner can be your secret admirer. Do your hair, do your makeup, put yourself in a fancy gown or tux and let your inner diva nature go wild.
Go full red carpet! Dress up, sip champagne, and have your partner act like they finally got their dream night with the famous actor they've always adored. Imagine they won a contest for a private meet-and-greet that turns into something much more intimate.
17. The chef and the server
Food play, anyone? Have one of you be the "strict chef" demanding perfection, while the other is the eager-to-please server willing to do anything for a good tip. Feed each other strawberries, drizzle honey in strategic places, and see where it leads.
18. The masseuse
Make this sex role-play a full experience by snagging some warm massage oil, lighting a few cancles, using a real massage table (or bed), and slow, sensual movements. Start by genuinely relieving tension, then let things naturally transition into more intimate territory.
Give each another erotic massages until you're both feeling smooth, silky and ready to be touched further.
19. The voyeur
Watching your partner masturbate without touching them (yet) is the ultimate exercise in restraint. Take turns being the voyeur and the exhibitionist. Maybe even add a mirror for an extra visual thrill.
20. The exhibitionists
Speaking of enjoying the view, if you two are into the idea of being watched, imagine you’re putting on a sexy show for a hidden audience made up of people who find you both incredibly hot. Whisper to each other about who might be watching or what they'd think if they saw you.
21. The bather
A hot, candlelit bath with bubbles, essential oils, and slow, sensual washing turns your bathroom into an intimate spa for two. Make it even steamier by washing each other with your hands instead of a loofah.
22. Your favorite TV duo
Got a thing for Olivia Pope and President Grant from "Scandal"? How about Shane and Carmen from "The L-Word"? Or maybe even Rachel and Ross from "Friends"?
It doesn't matter who you choose as long as you're turned on by the thought of them. Reenact a hot moment between your favorite TV couple, or rewrite the story with your own ending, one that involves a lot fewer commercial breaks
23. Royalty and servant
Demand royal treatment by being fed, massaged, and waited on. The servant can work their way up the ranks by "pleasing" the ruler in different ways.
Have them bring you wine, feed you grapes, rub your feet, and just do all the general things we see in depictions of Renaissance royals and their servants.
24. The painter and their muse
Break out the art supplies and pose for each other while one of you sketches or paints (naked, of course). The artist can "adjust" their muse's pose however they see fit.
25. The doctor and nurse
Cliché roleplay idea? Yes. Fun? Also, yes. This is a sex fantasy so many people enjoy, why not give it a try? From check-ups to "private examinations," this role-play scenario is full of possibilities. Try writing out a prescription for exactly what you want your partner to do next.
26. The dance teacher and the student
Take a few private lessons or watch some YouTube tutorials to prep for this one, then enact a role-play scenario in which you are a student and your partner is the instructor (or vice versa) and seduce each other through the art of movement.
Whether it’s salsa, tango, or even just a slow sway, the closeness and tension of dancing can lead to something much more intimate.
27. Innocent versus not-so-innocent
One of you can pretend to be a bit shy and naive (but very curious), while the other plays the experienced mentor, taking control and "teaching" the first all about sex. The teacher should be very eager to share their knowledge in a very hands-on way.
28. Mile-high club members
Having sex on an actual airplane can get you in a lot of trouble, but making out and eventually sneaking into your own bathroom can feel nearly as exciting. Recreate the thrill of sneaky airplane hookups in your own home — maybe in a tiny bathroom or under a blanket on the couch.
29. The boss and their employee
Performance reviews just got a whole lot more interesting. Assign "tasks" that need to be completed before the employee gets their reward. Need inspiration? Check out the 2002 movie "Secretary" with Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader.
30. The hotel maid and guest
Slip into character (or a sexy maid costume) and play the shy but seductive maid who keeps getting "called back" to clean the same room. After all, the guest might have made a mess. After one knock on the door from "housekeeping," things will heat up in no time.
Sam H. Escobar is a Brooklyn-based writer, editor, and content strategist who covers wellness and relationships for The Cut (New York Magazine), Allure Magazine, Well+Good, Business Insider, Esquire, and Latina.