We Asked Women What They REALLY Think Of Threesomes

Does fantasy live up to expectation?

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Have you ever had a threesome? Well, maybe it's time.

You must have fantasized about it at one point or another, haven't you? Picture it: you and two other people enjoying the heightened senses that comes with three instead of just two. Think of all those hands! For some it may sound like hell, but for others, and more than you'd think, threesomes are actually a lot of fun.

According to the LELO Global Sex Survey, with the release of Fifty Shades of Grey, some things are actually expected to increase. For instance, making a sex movie, having sex in public, having sex with a stranger, and, you guessed it, having a threesome are getting more play

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Here's what women think of threesomes. And no, they aren't holding back!

1. I'm always looking for more fun.

"As I'm poly/pan, I really enjoy threesomes. I haven't tried MMF, but I've had FFM quite a bit, and I have tried FFF. I've been hoping for more threesomes, but I tend to only venture on them when I'm in a relationship with at least one of them. I think that a MMF sounds exciting, but I would really have to find the right partners." —Chandra, 32

2. There's too much going on.

"Tried FFM and FFF. I found it was fun, but just too much to pay attention to. I'm trying to make MMF happen, though!" — Cate, 23

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3. I used to have them a lot more often.

"I fondly remember my first threesome (FFF). Two pretty ladies and my boyfriend (now husband) was downstairs. I enjoy the occasional threesome (usually includes one significant other, or both, and a friend). I'd say I have at least a few a year, so maybe one every few months? It used to be more often, but we all get older and slow down." —Becky, 29

4. It's better when you know the people.


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"I was sleeping with this dude I met at university and I found out he was married. But he told me that sometimes his wife would be down for swinging both ways. I felt guilty for sleeping with a married dude so I met the wife at the library 'by accident' during midterms and asked her out. It ended up in a threesome and then I didn't feel guilty anymore. Then, for my birthday one year, I ended up in a birthday threesome with my BFF and her boyfriend. It was her first time with a lady and it was totally easy and not weird at all because everyone was in it for fun and there was no weird jealousy. I did it again with them about a year later.” — Caleigh, 30

5. I'll only have one if it's with a couple.

"As the third wheel, sure, or if everyone involved is single then great. But a couple and a third? Only if I'm the third. And that I don't have to deal with their inevitable breakup after that because that's awkward. Unfortunately, I know from experience." —Sarah, 35

6. They are way too over-hyped.

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"In a relationship, we had three of these. Two FFM and one MMF. I preferred the MMFs, but that is because the one girl was really dramatic. Mostly I don't think they are worth the trouble. There was jealousy because we didn't have a healthy dialogue. I think if we had less problems between the two of us, things would have been better." — Dani, 25

7. I get jealous if it happens in a relationship.

"I have had many threesomes and group sex, and they're fun when it's casual (like with a FWB or just friends... like the time my girlfriend, a gay man, and a lesbian had somewhat of a foursome). But I'm usually too jealous to do it within the context of a relationship." —Amanda, 25

8. It's too emotionally taxing.

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"I have had a couple of threesomes and I love the rush and all of the added stimuli. There's something very sexy about being part of the action and watching the action unfold at the same time. I would never do it with someone I'm in a serious relationship with, though, because I couldn't take it emotionally." — Nan, 29

9. There's also the annoying expectations.

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"Been there, done that a few times. Was normal for a while. Now just annoyed when it's expected of all bisexual women." —Amber, 41

10. I would love to do it at least once before I die.

"Never had one. I am almost 44 years old and would like to have one, but honestly, I am a little scared about it. My husband is also open to the idea. We have never found a third to be part of the scenario and I don't think either of us has looked very hard. It would have to be a woman, according to him." — Joy, 43

11. I would probably try it... maybe.

"It's on my bucket list, but I'm not sure I'll ever follow through. Most people I know have done it — more women than men — but I'm thinking it might be better in a fantasy. I don't know. If the opportunity arises, I'll do it. I think." — Franny, 32

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12. I will never participate in one.


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"No, not my thing. I have a hard enough time paying attention to one person." —Autumn, 25

13. It's way too gross.

"I've never tried and never thought about it and probably wouldn't want to. It's just kind of gross to me. I don't know... the aspect seems trashy to me." —Maria, 22

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