Second Thoughts On An Open Relationship
One man has doubts about leaving monogamy behind.
Ok. So my girlfriend and I are doing really well and we've been together for two years. We haven't really ever fought or gotten in a serious argument. She has expressed her desire to have an open relationship for the past couple months. We both agreed that we enjoy and sometimes need variation and an open relationship would be good. 7 Tips for Beginning an Open Relationship
A couple days after we decided to have a kind-of-open relationship (no sex with others yet) to see how things go, she had a guy sleep over. They did not have sex, but the happening really hurt me. The next day she asked how I was faring with a girl I had recently met, then told me of her hook-up. For days, I cried and tried not to let her see it because I believed I was overreacting. I couldn't believe I was so upset from her just being in bed with a guy and hooking-up a little. Handle Jealousy Like A Hot Chick
I'm scared of losing her, and I feel ineffective satisfying her although that is really NOT the issue. She always orgasms and we both enjoy the sex. We want variation, sex with other people. But from my freak-out it sounds like I do not want an open relationship and only she does. I'm a guy so I have ridiculous masculinity crises and this is such a case. I feel like I'm an outcast with my opinion of this issue, especially being a male.
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I really want this girl in my life, she wants me to always be in her life. She is so lovely and wonderful I often feel compelled to describe in various ways my love for her through writing. I adore the romance with her. How To Master Commitment
I am very insecure, and I am working on that right now for the first time in my life. Some friends are helping me with this difficult task.
She is not hooking up with other guys, for the time being, until I feel I can cope and really believe that it won't be a big deal. I will continue to hit on girls and she is fine with that. Girls don't really hit on me so I have to go after them, but I haven't been successful.
So my questions are, 1) what the hell is wrong with me? 2) How healthy, or unhealthy, is this relationship? and 3) Are you going to tell me to end the relationship too?
Written by Curly for Divine Caroline.
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