The Fat Girl Fights Back!

I have found that I write the best when someone has either pissed me off or amazed me with their sheer stupidity. In this case, it was sheer stupidity, unfortunately. I was browsing through the Q&A section of the site when I stumbled upon a question by some blatant retard who wondered if there was some kind of anatomy difference between big women and slim women that caused the larger of the two to be really “horny” and “freaky.” Initially, I wondered just how big of a dumbass actually pondered whether the anatomy of two women was different, but after staring at this geniuses reference to women who were “9’s” and “10’s” I made the assumption that this guy’s elevator didn’t come close to the top floor. However, the two women who responded to the dumbest question of 2010 (so far) might actually be more ignorant than the winner who posted it.

So, without further ado, meet LAWestphal, a self-proclaimed chicken legged, less than a “10,” who claims to have been married for 23 years. She says, “Large women, like large men, have a lot more 'junk' in the way, and um....no offense....many men are not...ummm...'big' enough in the first, or knowledgable enough on how to use it, to make it around, in past, the largness”

So, our friend LA thinks that big women have too much meat on their bones (that apparently gets “in the way”) and that men aren’t well endowed enough or don’t have enough expertise to get “around” whatever the hell “largness” is.

Now, here are some more utterly ridiculous claims from LA, “The people I know, not DH, who are XXXlarge say that the way they are treated by people is that most think they are easy deprived pickings. 'A Sure lay' They get used and lied to for relationships, but until they found that special someone, it was all about the sex because it doesn't take long for the other to start telling them to loose weight or loose interest.”

LA claims that her fat friends get treated poorly because people think that they’re easy, and they also get lied to, have relationships that are based on sex, and that their partners will ultimately want them to slim down or they’ll no longer be interested. Well, I suppose that skinny women are the opposite according to LA’s deep observations of fat love and sex. I suppose that skinny women aren’t easy, don’t get lied to, don’t have sex-based relationships, don’t get told to slim down, and never have partners lose interest. Surely we all know those assumptions are entirely false; otherwise, we would be doomed to a harsh reality, now wouldn’t we?

However, LA sums her opinion up with this statement, “Unless of course the other sees them for the beautiful person they are, and/or is into the fetish of the Big and Beautiful. Then it is happily ever after or great friends with benefits.” Apparently, a man being interested in or attracted to a fat woman is a fetish, whodathunkit?

Now, I can’t pick on LA too much without letting you guys see what kimmiedancer had to say, “this is mean to say - but maybe the bigger girls are more desperate, or want to feel loved and so are open to whatever, espesh if they are concerned about thier looks and think others are too?” Wait, I get it, fat girls are desperate – so they sleep around trying to get someone to love them, that makes so much sense! Thanks kimmie!

So, now that we’re passed the asinine assumptions regarding big women in bed, I’ll tell you how I really feel.

I have a fat ass. I have always had a fat ass, when I was in kindergarten I stood 5+ inches taller than all of the other girls and had the shoulders of a miniature linebacker. I wasn’t an overweight child by any means, but I fit the textbook definition of “big boned” or “large framed.” I suppose I began struggling with my weight around age 14 or so; I was in high school and as we all know, the pressure of adolescence is tremendous. I played basketball, I rode horses, I competed in rodeo events, I played tackle football with the boys in the summertime and it wasn’t until my peers had a problem with my weight that I developed a problem with it. (Thanks a lot, assholes.) However, I never had self-esteem issues; I wanted to lose weight, but I never thought less of myself for any reason. I always thought I was attractive and I never had any trouble dating. Oh, and here is the shocker for LA and kimmie, I wasn’t sexually active and got dates! I didn’t become sexually active until a few months before I graduated high school. Now, once I entered college I became more interested in dating, relationships, and sex. I began dating a guy a few months into college and stayed with him for a total of 2 ½ years with a few rough patches and breakups in between. He was a big guy and I was a big girl – we never had any “largness” issues or equipment malfunctions when we were getting busy! I saw other people during our rough patches and I had partners of all shapes and sizes…you name it, I had them big and tall, tall and slender, tall and muscular… The only common denominator was that they were all tall, because I’m tall and no one under 6 feet made the cut during the hot mess I called my life between the years of ‘03-’06. I wasn’t a whore by any standard and I can proudly say that I have known every single guy I’ve ever had sex with for at least 3 months prior to getting it on, while most I had known for 6 months to a year or longer. I never had sex with anyone to get attention or to make them like me, ever.

In early ’06 I decided I was going to “straighten up and fly right,” which meant I was going to make an attempt at having a normal/stable relationship. However, after 3 years, a lot of temptation, and finally screwing around in the weeks prior to strapping on the balls and kicking him to the curb…I was sick of relationships. (The man I dated for 3 years was an inch shorter than me and it bothered me to no end, by the way.) Nonetheless, I would gladly line a wall with every man I’ve been with, because none of them have been ugly, I repeat, none of them. Another shocker, almost everyone I dated or had sex with had always dated slender girls and/or eventually married a slender girl, and for some of them, I was the only big girl they ever dated…I thought it was awesome because people gossiped about, “how did she get him?” – it made my day for skinny bitches to wonder how the fat girl one-upped them.

So, how did I manage to pull this off? It’s simple. I am attractive. I have a pretty face, I have a $3,000 smile (after wearing braces for 28 months), I have a nice body, I am tall and my weight is proportioned. I have a nice rack and one of the benefits of being damn near 6 feet tall is: killer legs. However, looks aside, I have a good personality, I am intelligent, educated, witty, and there are quite a few people who think I’m rather comical. Simplicity, I am nice looking and fun to be around. I have a great attitude and love to have a good time. Additionally, I am low maintenance, loathe drama, and was brought up around nothing but guys. I like guy things and I can wear heels. I like college football, I’ll go hunting, I love 4x4’s, racing, and getting dirty. I don’t have to be a slut to make men like me, all I have to do is be ME.

Now, how many slender women out there have that kind of self-confidence? How many slender women wish they could be “themselves” with men? Millions. Are there big girls out there that have self-esteem issues? Yes, there are and there is an equal number of slender women with the same issues. Are there big women who make themselves “easy” to get male attention? Absolutely, likewise, there are slim girls who do the exact same thing. Women will be women, regardless of their weight, size, proportions, and any other variation.

I’ve recently lost some weight and I had to stop myself from running around like I was a Playboy Bunny, because I think I’m smoking hot. I am losing weight for health reasons – not image reasons. I like the way I look and I wish there were more big girls who loved themselves and their bodies. I believe it is harder for plump women to gain acceptance, friendships, relationships, and everything else. We get picked on, we get discriminated against, and I have never taken that kind of shit and never intend to. I believe everyone who knows me will tell you rather rapidly that I will tell anyone to, “shut the hell up” in a heartbeat when they’re disrespecting or degrading another person because of his or her appearance. I have thick skin and I wish that was something more women (in general) had.

I have options in the dating pool and I’ve been seeing a very attractive career Firefighter. I love the expression on other women’s faces when they hear the word, “Firefighter,” because you can almost instantly see the wheels in their heads starting to spin and it’s almost always, “how did she manage that?” The whole questioning is based on my size – they ignore everything else and just wonder how the fat girl got the Fireman. I believe that shows just how shallow people are for thinking that a man couldn’t be attracted to a woman just because she had some extra meat on her bones. I find that appalling because I am attractive! The fact that I have a big ass has no hindrance on me being attractive. Nonetheless, big girls often do have to level the playing field, but I don’t worry about it! I am confident that me just being me will work out just fine… So, lookout skinny bitches because I’ll one-up your boney asses anytime!

Link to the referenced Q&A posts:
https://www.yourtango.com/question/201051140/horny-big-girl-vs-sexual-10