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why is he masturbating?

Published on January 23, 2014 by podirstaxmom10

I am 45 and my fiance of 18 months is 55. I have 10 children from a previous marriage and he has none but has been a stepfather. He travels for his job so our time is very limited but we spend together by phone and skype. When together it is wonderful. He is a gentleman and loving and romantic. The thing that bothers me is he seems to decrease the amount of sex we have the longer we are together. When we do have sex it is the best I have ever had, but most of the time he wakes up and masturbates in bed when he thinks I am still asleep either releasing on my back or elsewhere. I don't understand why? I know he has a hernia but he says he is ok. Have I done something wrong? Is he a freak? Should I worry? We are getting married in 6 months and I have already had a really bad marriage. I know he is not cheating but I don't understand.

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He is masturbating because people masturbate. That part is natural. The issue seems to be that you haven't talked with him about it. And I wonder, have you talked with him about your other concerns (his lower sex drive)? Have you asked him if you can join him on these midnight solo escapades? Happy marriages depend on open and honest communication in the bedroom and elsewhere. Talk to him directly.

So he reduces the amount of sex he has with you, and masurbates instead?

As the other poster said, you need to talk to him. There's no point trying to second guess or work out what's going on yourself. Are you instigating sex and he's refusing? Perhaps he thinks you don't want to have sex and he doesn't want to pester you?

It's all about communicating. Get off the Internet and talk to your man instead!

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