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Is he gay?

Published on July 14, 2013 by lostbattle

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years now and we have a 8 month old son together. The other day i was on his laptop and i found several pictures of him and another GUY giving and receiving oral sex. When i confronted him about it he said it happened years ago when he like 20 years old he's 32 now. That how he stumbled upon it, which i don't believe 1. because the only email he has is yahoo and it was not in his yahoo account and in the picture s far as facial hair and body hair is just how he looks now. He said it's not something he is proud of blah blah blah but what i don't understand is 1. if your not proud of it then why do you still have it 2. why are you downloading them on your phone??? the pictures had different dates on them so it wasn't something that was just a one day thing. He seemed very nonchalant about the whole thing like he didn't care i found out about nor that i was hurt. Later that night he had the nerve to come and lay in the bed i told him to sleep on the couch. The next day i packed me and my sons things and moved. I feel so disgusted...looking back i can't say there were any signs. he said he is not gay...i don't understand. I'm so confused and even though he did what he did i love him so much but i know we can no longer be together because he betrayed me in all ways. I don't think i deserve to have to now go and get my self tested.

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There are many potential outcomes of this situation, but if your reaction is to be disgusted and angry, then the best choice may be to break up. Many married or partnered men experiment with other men. Some women would be able to accept this or feel betrayed but able to move on. From your strong language and his avoidance it doesn't seem like you will be able to forgive him or create an honest communication about this. Better to part ways and find a way to co-parent together than to stay in a relationship full of toxic resentment. Good luck!

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