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Handjob question

Published on May 23, 2013 by melonberry

I'm with my boyfriend and this is the first time i've been getting intimate with anyone (below the belt) and he knows i'm a virgin and is good about it. He tries really hard to please me by fingering me and such and I really want to return the favour. But whenever I give him a handjob and it seems like hes about to orgasm he always pushes my hands away. Am I just really bad at it, though he seems like he enjoys it? Or is he stopping me because he doesn't want to orgasm without having sex? I'm not sure whats going on, but I sort of feel like i'm failing at it, and that i'm not pleasuring him enough. What do I do about this? And why does he keep stopping me?

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That is quite natural that he stops when he gets close to climaxing if he knows your expecting him to play with you. He may stop because he doesn't want to be selfish and get his thrill and shut down because he got his off...women are good at telling lies regarding an internal orgasm that a man can't see, but men's can't hide that because sperm comes out. Basically I think your over-thinking things and your teasing him and you have to allow him to decide when and where he wants to cum at because its his body just like he respects your right to be a virgin. "Some" women think that a handjob is sufficient or try to think if they do that for man then he is not going to still want foreplay and other sexual interaction. Please don't fool yourself, each man has his own particular appetite and stamina and your not "Failing" your just trying to control someone else's body but at the same time you want to abstain. Sounds hypocritical- respect personal boundaries as he respects yours and stop trying to figure him out because its just foreplay and teasing. Of course he wants intercourse but don't make him a villain, he is human. Many men would not even tempt themselves because it test their patience with virgins and the tease games...lol. Just respect his boundaries as he respect yours and don't analyze him. Much success.

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