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Ex girlfriend drama

Published on December 27, 2012 by justmel

For about 2 months I have been hanging out with this guy. When I first met him we were just friends, he seemed like a pretty decent guy and a guy I could see myself hanging out with on a regular basis. Two weeks after I met him things changed a little bit we were hugging and holding hands but that's it. Nothing more, nothing less. At first I thought he was just being friendly so I tried not to think much about it. He started hanging out more with my friends and I and every time we went out, the same thing happened. We hugged, we held hands and then we kissed. That's when things started getting confusing for me. I didn't know if what he wanted was just a hookup, a friend with benefits or an actual relationship. We would never really talk during the weekdays just on the weekends to hang out and I noticed he was really secretive with his phone. He would always be texting and he wouldn't allow anyone to look through his phone. I started thinking he had a girlfriend so I asked him. He said, "I don't have a girlfriend. I haven't had a girlfriend since August. I have an ex-girlfriend and things are complicated with our situation." I thought they were still trying to work out their problems so I backed off and he noticed. He told me, "Please don't push me away. I don't want to be with my ex and don't have anything to fix with her. I like being with you because of the way you are, you're always smiling and laughing and having a good time." I believed him. We continued going out as a group and we went out on a date. Then one day about 3 weeks ago, his ex added me on Facebook. I told him and next thing you know she had deleted me and blocked me. I thought it was best, I didn't want any problems. This Saturday I had a little get-together at my house and of course, he came. He was here until 3 in the morning and we hugged, we held hands and we kissed. Next day I get a message on Facebook from a girl I didn't know but then turned out to be the sister of his brothers girlfriend and his ex's best friend. She told me that she was his girlfriend and that I was disgusting for involving myself with a man who was in a relationship, I told her that from what I knew she was his ex and that, that was that. She continued to say that he was her boyfriend and I asked him and he said he would take care of it. He doesn't have her as a friend on Facebook, matter of fact he has her blocked so I found it kind of odd that she would claim to be his girlfriend if they didn't even awknowledge each other on Facebook. She didn't message me again. 2 days ago, my friend had a little party at her house and he came. He pulled me aside, gave me his phone and told me his password. He said, "I don't want you to think I am hiding anything from you, because I am not." I told him I wasn't the kind to be stalking his life and going through his things and that I put all my trust in him and once he loses my trust, it's gone forever. After the party ended we stayed in my car for a little while and we continued talking. He told me that the reason things were complicated with his ex was because he used to live with her for a year and that they had shared an apartment, his car was on her name and his cellphone was in her name as well. He now lives with his family and that he has to keep in touch with her because he needs to pay his bills and that the only reason he sees her is because his brother is dating her bestfriend. While we were in the car, his phone kept ringing and he looked and told me it was her the text said his name with a question mark in which he responded what do you want? She said, "You don't have to be so rude, I just wanted to know when you were going to come pick up your things from the apartment because I don't want them here anymore." He responded my brother will pick them up tomorrow and she got upset and asked why he couldn't do it. She then called and heard me and got even more upset calling me names. After he left, I drove home and I got a call from a private number. I pick up and it was her. She starts calling me names and all this time I'm keeping my cool. Letting her speak her mind and when she finished talking I asked her how she got my number ad she told me his phone was on her name and that he just called the company and asked for records of all the number he had called and called every single one of them until she found me. She told me that he was still with her and that she had just kicked him out of the apartment 2 days ago. I was upset. But I told her that I didn't know and that I don't want any of this drama. She then contradicted herself by saying that she left him and wanted nothing to do with him but that he still begged her. I asked her if she didn't want anything with him why did she care who he was dating now. She stayed quiet and said I was heated. She then told me that they broke up months ago and that he had moved back with his family I asked her , "I thought you said you just kicked him out 2 days ago?" She then hung up on me. I called him and he said I'm sorry you're involved in this I'm going to go pick up the last of my few things tomorrow to see if this ends once and for all. It's been a day and I haven't heard from her again. I like this guy. But he has a lot of baggage. I guess what I want to know is if it is does this guy even like me or is he just playing both of us? And if he does like me, is this drama going to be an everyday thing? I'm so confused.

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Wash your hands of him - at best, he's a spineless wimp and she's a psycho who will make your life hell if you stay with him.

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