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Does it sound like she still has some interest in getting back together?

Published on December 11, 2012 by sportzguy92

My girlfriend and I broke up about 6 months ago, we were together for 6 months prior to that. We broke up because of a few drunken incidents between us caused by me. I said some things to her that i said alot of things to her that i didnt mean, they just came out at the time. I know what I did was wrong and i deeply regret what happened. After she broke up with me, i did everything i could to try and repair our relationship and nothing worked. After about a month of trying i had decided to just cut ties with her and try to move on. After our breakup i spent alot of time analyzing things in my life and why i acted the way i did. I've made some changes in my life and feel like i have changed myself.

I saw her out a few months ago and there was just a quick hey how are you doing exchange between us and that was it. I saw her out again two weekends ago and this time she came full force on me. Things about our past and all this stuff about how i didnt try hard enough to get her back and how i acted like i didnt care about our relationship. She was really upset about it and showed alot of emotion. Keep in my mind that we havent talked in 6 months prior to this. She says it will take her awhile to get over what happened between us and that she needs time to heal and find out what she really wants. I completely understand and respect that. We had texted back and forth after this for a bit. I asked her if she had given up all hope of anything ever happening between us. She couldnt give me a straight answer. Her response was that she felt like i was pressuring her and that she didnt want to be put in a corner with whatever answers she gave me. I dont really know what that means but i took it as she doesnt know what she wants, but she hasnt completely thrown out the idea of something happening between us. This girl does still mean alot to me and i do still care for her alot after all this time. My question is, does it seem like she still has some interest and should i let time run its course and still make an attempt to pursue this girl? Obviously im not going to wait around forever. Or should i just cut all times and keep trying to move on?

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You told her how you felt. It doesn't sound like she wants to give it another shot. When a relationship is consistently rocky, it usually means you're not compatible, and that the relationship is just not a good fit. I hope one of the changes you made has to do with drinking to excess. When alchohol changes how you behave, you have to admit you have a problem. Leave her alone and move on.

You acted like a jerk to her (and being drunk is no excuse), and she is not sure she wants you back. Do not push her. You've made your interest in her known - let her decide if she wants to make up and resume the relationship. In the meantime, I would say neither one of you should put your life on hold in the hopes the relationship will resume. If she decides she wants you back, fine. If she waited too long to make up her mind and you've begun dating someone else, she missed her window of opportunity.

No for the advice I'd give to HER. Alcohol doesn't put ideas into your head - it simply clouds your judgement and lowers your inhibitions against acting out on an impulse that's already there. If you simply did something stupid and made an ass out of yourself, that is forgiveable (as long as it does not become a habit). However, if the drunk you was mean, or violent, she should have nothing to do with you.

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