Why does sex get boring in long-term partnerships?
By Tammy Nelson — Written on Feb 29, 2012
What happens to your sex life after the honeymoon's over? Did you ever wonder why long term relationships can sometimes lead to boring sex? And why do we need advice from therapists and sexologists (like me) to spice things up? 3 Ways To Squeeze In More Sex
After the initial romantic stages of a relationship ends and the honeymoon is over, most couples enter into the maintenance stage of their relationship. This phase may mean that sex is nice, it works, and you like it, but it can at times be stale or even boring. You may eventually feel trapped in your routine.
You may both find that you fantasize about something a little more adventurous, but it can be hard to bring up a new idea or even a conversation about sex with your partner. Maybe you are both tired and don't have the time or energy to act out a new fantasy. After all, the maintenance sex is good. But watch out — if you don't try something new once in a while, well, the risk of not spicing up the bedroom is obvious. Internet Sex And Porn – Is It Cheating?
When you put as much energy into your erotic life as you put into your job, your home, or even your exercise routine, you will find that it pays off big time. Your erotic life is what makes you feel "in love" with your partner — not just loving toward them. Working on the erotic energy in your relationship means you can have that honeymoon feeling again.
All it takes is three things:
- The time
- A fantasy
- The energy to shake things up
Make a date tonight with your partner for something different. Break out of your routine. Try sending each other sexy reminders during the day of what's to come when you get each other home, in bed. Wear sexy lingerie to work under your suit, and leave the lights on when you do make love. Rebuilding Trust After They Cheat
You can have honeymoom sex every night — make it feel new by trying something new tonight!
Dr. Tammy Nelson is a sex and relationship expert and the author of Getting the Sex
You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together. Find her at www.drtammynelson.com
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