Why Every Woman (Even Married Ones) Should Date Other People
If you feel like your man is growing distant, there's a surefire way to bring him back again.
I hear it from so many women all too often...
You're with a man who does it all for you. He meshes his life with yours, calls you his girlfriend, gives you a good amount of time and energy, but then, after you've been together maybe a year or so, it suddenly seems like he's beginning to "fade," slip away or grow cold. You feel he's not so sure about your relationship. Other parts of his life (his job, his friends, travel, even other women) are taking away from your time with him.
Before you know it, you find yourself asking — what happened here? Did something change? And that's when all of our insecurities really begin to have their way with us. We begin questioning everything we've done, even who we are as a woman. We start blaming ourselves for his pulling away. If all this sounds familiar, I want you to know there's something you can do about it....
My Most Powerful Tool For Turning Things Around In Love Is Called "Circular Dating". Here's How it Works:
First of all, you need to know that Circular Dating does NOT necessarily mean actually going out and "dating" men. In fact, it usually has absolutely nothing to do with finding your right man (although that's the way it often ends up working out). Although, for some women, it can involve dating as many men as possible at the same time (without giving any one more attention, access, time or energy than any other) here's what Circular Dating IS really all about:
Circular Dating is about drawing the man you want close again with new self-confidence and a higher "degree of difficulty" that he can't ignore or resist. It can mean getting out there and just flirting. It can mean going to classes, being "social," or doing the things in public that you used to do when you were more open to meeting new men. It can simply mean "hanging out" where men are.
The most important part of it is the attitude ... using Circular Dating as "free therapy" instead of as a "fishing pole" for men. It's also an honest, straightforward opportunity for you to feel great and stay sane while you're giving a man time to show you who he really is, and what he really wants. The moment we close down all of our options in men and start staring ONE man in the face 100% of the time — that's when things get dicey emotionally. That's why the whole idea of Circular Dating is to get out in public and talk to other men. Interact with them while using my other tools (I'd especially like you to check out my "Feeling Messages" and "The Dance Position" tools to help you) to retrain your mind, your heart, your body to just BE.
And if you think that "just being" is easy — think again. In fact – DON'T think! Thinking is actually the opposite of being. Just BEING enables us to interact with every man, woman and child that we meet (I say "we" because, though I've been happily married for over 20 years, I still Circular Date all the time) in a new way that allows you to become irresistibly ATTRACTIVE. And that's really why Circular Dating is really so awesome. It's all about helping us get our act together in love, and doing it FAST.
The Big Fear So Many Women Ask Me About
Not surprisingly, Circular Dating goes against everything many women naturally believe about relationships. We've have been taught since childhood to believe that becoming a man's "girlfriend" and being exclusive naturally leads to a long-term, committed relationship. This is a total lie! The truth is, the moment a woman makes a man the center of her world is the moment he starts to feel less romantic about you. It's a demonstration of weakness and lack of self-respect to him.
So remember: becoming exclusive with a man does not automatically lead to lasting love and commitment. Know what will? Keeping your options open and focusing on what YOU need in love. After that, if a man you really like gets back in the game in a big way and proves himself over time (let's say three to four months) then you'll know he means business in terms of long-term commitment and life partnership. But he's got to make that plain and clear. You deserve at least that much. When he does, you can stop Circular Dating (well, you stop actually "dating" only in the traditional sense, because Circular Dating never, ever stops — no matter how long you've been in a relationship or marriage) and throw your lot in with this devoted man.
So remember...Circular Dating doesn't cause risk — it LIMITS risk. It reduces it. That's why I am so firm about it and uncompromising about Circular Dating.
How about you? Will you choose to take the first step and learn more? Will you try it? And, when you do, what kind of life-changing results will you get?
Let me know! I'd love to hear from you.
Rori Raye teaches women how to attract the right man and have the kind of close, connected relationship they've dreamed of. To learn specific ways to relate to a man — from the early stages of dating all the way through a blissful commitment — subscribe to Rori's free newsletter. You'll discover a new, fun way to think about relationships and dating that's all about you, raises your self-esteem, and draws the right man to you effortlessly.
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