If You Do These 10 Things, He's Probably Not Calling You Back
Here are some signs that you may not get a call back.
Daria Minaeva | Kaspars Grinvalds | Marina Polovinkina | Canva Did his calls and texts suddenly stop?
It's happened to all of us — we date a man who is handsome, witty, charming, and fun to be with.
From every indication, he had a great time on your first date, too. He smiled adoringly at you during dinner, he laughed at your cute, quirky mannerisms, and he admired your style and accomplishments.
Eye contact with him was mesmerizing and conversation was stimulating. The chemistry was palpable.
He gave you a soft goodnight kiss at your front door and he purred, "I'll call you next week." The next week came, but the phone call never did.
"What happened?" you ask. You wonder, "Did I do something wrong?" Why didn't he call me for a second date?
Many times you did nothing wrong. Maybe the timing was off for him — he’s healing from a recent breakup or he’s dealing with financial issues.
Maybe the chemistry is smoking hot for you, but not for him, but it's not a good reason to beat yourself up that he didn't call for a second date.
Then again, maybe your bad dating behavior doused his original interest in you.
Here are 10 bad dating behaviors that will run a man off lickety-split — and more importantly, how to keep it from happening so you can get that second date.
If you do any of these 10 things, he's probably not calling you back:
1. Falling in love too fast
Romanticizing, fantasizing, and reading between the lines can scare a good man.
Ignoring and making excuses for a man's bad behavior can allow the wrong man into your life.
Solution: Pheromones, testosterone, dopamine, and norepinephrine induce feelings of physical attraction, infatuation, and love.
Reality check! Learn to temper your irrational, romantic feelings about a man with logic and reasoning.
2. Clingy, insecure behavior
Insecure women will laugh nervously, talk too much, and brag, and subconsciously they are trying to sell themselves to a guy.
Solution: Confident women know their self-worth. Instead of worrying about what he thinks about you, focus on if he is worthy of your time and attention.
3. Fearful, self-protecting behavior
You’re afraid to show your interest in a man.
Your self-protecting aura causes you to appear unfriendly, aloof, and unapproachable. Your fear of intimacy blocks the development of a relationship.
Solution: Adopt the mantra: It’s not ALWAYS about you. Men (even attractive, successful men) are afraid of being shot down by a woman. Assume everyone likes you — and if they prove otherwise, it’s their loss.
4. Talking about money
A man is leery of a woman when her biggest interest seems to be about money and possessions.
Solution: Stay clear of initial conversations that include: what kind of car he drives, your love of clothes, jewelry, and expensive restaurants, and (please say you wouldn’t) asking how much money he makes.
5. Losing your "mystery"
Sharing too much personal information too soon can squelch a man's desire to pursue you for a second date.
Solution: Don’t blab about your personal problems on a first date (or even second a date).
Don’t talk about the problems with your children, a fight with your girlfriend, a bad boss, or your past infidelity. Introduce the intimate aspects of your life as a relationship develops.
6. Calling and chasing a man
Out of eagerness or insecurity, you impulsively call a man, rather than waiting for him to call you first.
Solution: Ask yourself: Would you rather lose the interest of a man because 1) you called him out of desperation, or (for whatever reason) or 2) he chooses to never call you again? Tattoo this on your forehead: If he doesn’t pursue you — he’s just not into you!
7. Caving in for intimacy on the first date
Yes, we are modern, empowered women, but a man needs time to develop strong feelings for a woman. Intimacy too soon can short-circuit an otherwise promising relationship.
Solution: Get to the core of why you feel the need to sleep with a man on the first or second date. Is it low self-esteem? Daddy issues?
Are you afraid to say “no”?
Men typically say that there’s something about a woman who makes him wait.
8. Dating for money and position
When you commit or marry for possessions and status, you may later find yourself yearning for the love and intimacy that is absent in your relationship.
Solution: Decide what’s more important to you: Financial security or a loving relationship — and then live with your choice.
9. Talking about the men in your past
A man does not want to compete with (or be compared with) the men in your past — dead or alive.
Solution: Talking about anyone is a bad reflection on you.
If you must dwell on the pain and resentment of a past relationship, talk to a girlfriend — not to a new guy.
10. Drinking too much
Don't try to convince yourself that you "didn't act stupid" when you drank when truthfully, you did. Loosey-goosey inebriated behavior can wreck your chances with a great guy, along with your BMW.
Solution: If you can’t limit your drinks to two, you don’t need to be drinking.
Any one of these naughty dating behaviors can cause a man to think twice about the woman he is dating.
Don’t blow your chances to gain the serious pursuit of a wonderful man.
Nancy Nichols is a best-selling self-help, dating, and relationship author, empowerment speaker, notorious blogger, and TV and radio talk show personality. She's a woman's advocate who uses her self-help books to impart self-esteem building, the power of positive thought, relationship understanding, and personal healing.