5 Practical Tips For How To Get Over A Guy Fast
Your heart has been broken and you want to feel better fast.
There is truly nothing worse than a broken heart. Nothing. You just want to curl up in a ball and die. You firmly believe you will never love again, because how could you?
But you can love again and you can heal quicker if you follow this advice on how to get over a guy.
1. Let yourself be sad, but not for long.
When your heart is broken, it's okay to be sad. Your friends will tell you to get up and get out and be happy and get on with your life. And that is great advice.
But you can also allow yourself a little time to grieve. Stay home, rest, watch old episodes of Friends, and eat potato chips in bed. Just be sad.
Grieving is an important part of moving on. Just don’t grieve too long or you might get stuck in it. The longer the relationship the longer you might need to grieve but don’t indulge longer than you should.
Because once you are done being sad the fun part starts.
2. Stick to an exercise routine.
There is no better antidote for a broken heart than getting in great shape.
The endorphins that you get from exercise will lift your spirits immediately. And the feeling you will get from rocking your fit will be just what you need to make you feel confident enough to let that guy go.
And it won’t hurt when he sees you and eats his heart out.
3. Start dating again.
I know that you aren’t ready to love again. But there is no reason why you can’t start dating again.
Dating is fun. You get to dress up and go out and laugh and have new experiences. You don’t have to fall in love again you can just have fun.
Of course, you might find just the guy to erase that other guy from your life. That wouldn’t suck now, would it?
4. Take a vacation.
A good way to get over a broken heart is to put some distance between yourself and your man. If there is no chance you will run into him you are less likely to be triggered by doing so.
So get out there, change your scenery, have some new adventures, and do things differently.
Before you know it, your heart will be healed.
5. Block him everywhere.
I believe that when a break up occurs, no contact is essential for healing. People always talk about closure but really all closure is just one more chance to spend time together. And stalking your ex on social media will only lead to more heartbreak.
So block him on your phone, unfollow him on Facebook, and remove him from your Instagram and Snapchat feeds. Don’t go to the places he goes to or hangs out with his friends.
Do everything that you can to stay away from your ex and you will heal. I promise.
How long does it take to get over a guy?
There's no one-size-fits-all way to get over a breakup, and you will likely cycle through the stages of breakup grief a few times before finally feeling like you've moved on for good.
While everyone will get over a breakup at their own pace, research has shown that on average, it takes about 11 weeks to get over a breakup.
Nothing is worse than a broken heart. Really nothing. But a broken heart is a chance for you to have a whole new life, one full of love and health and adventure. A chance to get out there and find the guy you are supposed to be with.
So go for it. Grieve your loss and then get on with the rest of your life.
You will be glad you did.
Mitzi Bockmann is a New York City-based Certified Life Coach. Contact her for help.