The Special Ways To Score Points In The Game Of Love This Fall Season
When the leaves brighten, so do your chances of scoring.
Rawpixel.com / shutterstock Autumn is here! The lazy, hazy days of summer and vacations are just a fond memory.
Now, it’s time for the crazy days of settling back into the routine of work, school, homework, and juggling the family activities around and between everyone’s oh-so-hectic schedules.
Yet, there are some trade-off: the weather’s getting cooler, the leaves are turning red and gold in northern climes, it’s time to decorate for Halloween, and football season is back in full swing!
Do you know how to show someone you love them by using the rules of football?
Most everyone knows the basic rules of the game of football and how a player scores. There are six points for a touchdown, three points for a field goal, two points for a safety, and one for the extra point after a touchdown.
So, think back to when you learned the rules and scoring in football. Perhaps, you actually played the game and had a great coach who clearly outlined the basics, then firmly guided you down the path to the sweet success of winning.
Maybe your boyfriend was on the team. Maybe you were a cheerleader or a band member. Or maybe your parents loved the game and you learned it by osmosis as a tyke.
I was lucky enough to have a high school sweetheart that was the statistician of our small-town team and he explained it all to me while we cheered on the sidelines (and stole kisses between plays).
Now, when did you learn to score points in the game of love?
Although my young sweetheart and I did our best to play, we certainly didn’t know the rules, and (not surprisingly) we didn’t make it to the altar.
Thanks to Mars Venus concepts, you can now all understand the rules of love.
Men and women score points differently in the game of love. When you have more points than your partner, then you’re actually losing the game — not winning.
The way to win is to keep the score even.
It’s natural to assume that your partner needs what you need and experiences love in the same ways.
However, this isn’t usually the case. And it causes untold turmoil in relationships because you don’t understand your differences or recognize how best to show love to your partner.
Learning these skills can greatly improve your life together.
For instance, a man assigns lots of points for big things (like a paycheck, a new car, or an expensive vacation), but he gives only one point for little things.
Thus, he may believe that the best way to score many points with a woman is by doing something very big for her once in a while.
A woman, however, scores points very differently by assigning one point for every gift of love she receives.
Whether it’s a big gift or a little thing, it still only gets one point.
Doing many little things for a woman is the way to her heart.
Often during courtship, a man will focus on little things to win her favor, but then after a while, his focus shifts to other priorities. This is because men are more serial thinkers rather than multi-taskers like women.
Sometimes, men also stop doing little things if they feel taken for granted, so it’s also important to acknowledge and express appreciation for everything he does.
Since men are results-oriented, this lets him know that he’s been successful in the task of making her happy.
Learning to directly ask for a man’s support is another encouraging way a woman can inoculate herself from "resentment flu."
Although he wants her to be happy, his nature may be more focused and single-minded than hers.
Women are generally much more aware and giving, and men don’t automatically give in return like women friends and family would.
Women can minimize frustration and disappointment by helping men to redirect their energy and attention by simply asking.
Learn how to show someone you love them in these special ways to score big points with each other.
Men:
Rub her feet after a hard day of shopping.
Plan a special date night just for the two of you.
Take the kids out on a Saturday afternoon.
Put the toilet paper on the roll.
Women:
Really enjoy having sex with him.
Overlook a mistake.
Ask directly for his support.
Cook a special dinner for (only) two.
There are hundreds of ways to score points with your partner. It’s just plain fun to make your own lists and try them all this fall season!
Melodie Tucker is an internationally known Mars Venus Success Coach and instructor, guiding people to discover what it is they really want out of life — relationships, family, business/career — then helping them figure out how to get it. She is also a Prepare-Enrich couples mentor, an NLP practitioner, a workshop leader, public speaker, writer, and a contributing author to "Vibrant Women's Wisdom."