Why You Shouldn't Sweat Being Single
It's time to take some pressure off your search for Mr. Right.
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When we think about love, our soulmate, settling down, getting married and so on, we often recall our childhood expectations. For example, today, most women have careers and are perfectly capable of taking care of themselves. Still, they imagine Prince Charming appearing, swooping them up onto his white horse, riding off to dreamland and living happily ever after.
I have worked all of my life. I never expected a man to take care of me financially, but I sure have always relied on the man in my life to help me with my car repairs, computer problems and any general gadget difficulties. Sure, I have the intelligence to learn how to change spark plugs, but I really love leaning on my man for those things.
Too many people think they should be in relationship ... not because they really want one or are ready for one, but because it's just the thing to do. The pressure to be in a relationship is so automatic at times that we don't even think about it.
Do you ever notice that when you are single, friends and family always ask, "Are you seeing anyone?" or "How's your love life?" If you say you're not seeing anyone, they all want to fix you up. Your friends all think that you are such a catch. On the other hand, if you are in a lousy relationship, they want to know, "Why are you with that loser?" Continue reading...
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The quest to find Mr. or Ms. Right has become so popular. There seem to be a million online dating sites, matchmaking services, books and talk radio shows on the subject. Everywhere you look, there is some reference to finding the love of your life. But first, I suggest that you take stock and decide why you want a relationship right now. Do any of these reasons ring true?
• I am lonely.
• All of my friends are in a relationship.
• I can't afford to go to nice restaurants unless a man invites me.
• I feel like a loser without a man in my life.
• My mother keeps asking me when I'm going to get married.
• My biological clock is ticking.
• I want to get over my divorce or last relationship.
• I want a man to support me so that I don't have to work anymore.
• I want to get even with someone or make someone jealous.
Many times people just jump right into a relationship or stay in one with the wrong person because they feel that it's better than being alone. That's why I am inviting you to really look at whether or not you are ready for a relationship right now.
Maybe you just got out of a bad relationship, are recently divorced or had a death in the family and need to heal. There is nothing wrong with being alone and working on yourself to make sure that you are a complete, whole and healthy person who is ready to give your all with the right person.
I've always liked the saying, "I'd rather be healthy and alone than sick with someone else."