5 Tiny Habits That Will Stop You From Overworking Just To Feel Good About Yourself
You're hooked on being busy, and the solution lies within yourself.
taisiya kozorez, Tomaz Barcellos | Canva Self-care equals abundance, empowerment, and happiness. Self-care, or the lack of it, has been a very important theme in my life, as well as in my practice. For as long as I can remember, I have been teaching individuals and groups of women self-care tips and about the overall importance of self-care from a very personal level.
Self-care can be categorized into five levels — the first directly affecting the next. If you’re not handling the level one self-care issue, then two through five are going to be more difficult. And if you're struggling in level one then you are more than likely struggling through all five.
Five simple habits that can save you from working yourself to exhaustion
1. Physical care
Care for your body and maintain your health by using preventative measures. Feed yourself with good healthy food, get the proper rest, move your body so it stays fit, and keep up with preventative doctor appointments.
Many of us, especially those in caretaking roles — like moms or people who care for the elderly or sick — can find it very difficult to take care of the basic needs because we're so busy taking care of others. But it is so crucial to keep yourself health. So, make your physical self-care a priority!
2. Emotional care
This means being sure you feel safe in all aspects of your life and that you are not subjecting yourself to abusive relationships of any kind. Many times, one area of life or another may feel oppressive to us.
We may have a great home life but feel disrespected at work, or vice versa. Take stock of where your victim is showing up. You may want to do some deep inner work to understand why you are allowing bad behavior from certain people or in certain areas of your life. It might be beneficial to get a trusted friend or professional to help sort out your part in the acceptance of the bad behavior of others.
3. Mental care
Participate in activities that stimulate your brain and interest you to care for your mind. Some examples might be reading great books, watching educational shows, taking a course, or working toward a degree in something you are thoroughly interested in.
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Sometimes, we find ourselves feeling bored with our lives. We are not sure what we want anymore. Spending some reflective time to think about what might make us feel good and act on it is a great place to start. Even the commitment to doing one thing towards our self-growth a day will help energize us.
4. Social care
What is the caliber of your friendships? Are they fulfilling or do they feel one-sided? Are you the one who seems to be always giving, and somehow, it feels as if you can’t find a friend when you need one?
Sometimes we have to cut loose some of those non-mutual relationships, despite how painful that may be. Letting these relationships go makes room for new and more fulfilling friends. Make dates with these great friends and have fun with them!
5. Spiritual care
Be sure that you are practicing your spirituality, whether that be practicing in an organized religion or your sense of spirituality in a personal way. Connecting with a higher source is so important to feel at peace in life. Having faith and a community to connect to gives you the strength and courage to face any adversity that may show up in life.
People, particularly women in this culture, have learned to put everyone and everything ahead of themselves. And in addition to this, we spend our lives attempting to please others and look for approval outside of ourselves, when in actuality, the only person that matters is us.
Many feel that if they put themselves first they will be considered the dreaded “selfish.” No one wants to be that!
And then, of course, the guilt sets in. Life would be so much easier if we all were able to be honest with ourselves and with others and make the best choices for ourselves first or, at least, consider ourselves in every situation. Even if we choose to put another first it is conscious.
The internal drama would certainly decrease if we all followed this rule. Anxiety would decrease, decision-making would become a breeze, and there would be many more happy people.
Self-care equals good boundaries. Do you say no when you mean no and yes yes? Do you consider yourself first in every situation in your life? Do you find yourself angry and resentful toward others because you have not been able to set a boundary for yourself? Do you play the victim? These are great questions to ask yourself.
Good, healthy, self-care practices equal abundance. You will feel your life transform over time when you focus on your self-care practices daily. If it seems impossible to think about shifting your life around from putting everyone else’s needs first to good healthy self-care, don’t worry. Good self-care is truly a practice!
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Commit yourself that you will at least consider yourself in every situation even if you choose to put others first. Eventually, with practice, you will develop a habit of choosing yourself first. You will feel your self-esteem rise and you will notice others viewing you in a more respectful light as well.
Good things will come when you practice self-care!
Catherine Anesi is a licensed clinical social worker, Reiki Master, and a Transformational Group and Retreat facilitator. She is also founder of The Lighthouse Wellness And Retreat Center,