Mom Says Husband 'Flew Off The Handle' After She Paused His Game So He Would Give Their Son A Bath
He's calling her "lazy."
Pavel Danilyuk / Pexels A mother shared her husband’s lack of commitment when it came to parenting after he refused to help care for their baby so that he could finish playing his video game.
Frustrated, she had no choice but to pause all internet connection in their household until her husband prioritizes being a father over his video games.
Now, the woman is wondering if she went too far.
The woman claims her husband 'went off the handle' after she paused his video game so that he could give their baby a bath.
Posting her story on the subreddit, "r/AmItheA–-hole (AITA), the woman asked other Redditors if she was wrong about her decision.
The 23-year-old mother began her post by sharing that she cut the internet connection in the apartment she shares with her 23-year-old husband after he refused to bathe their 8-month-old son so that he could finish playing his video game.
“There’s a lot of background information that went into this decision,” the woman wrote.
She revealed that her husband does nothing to help around the house, and refuses to cook dinner, do laundry and keep their apartment tidy.
Instead, he puts all of the household duties onto his wife.
“If the house is dirty, he’ll chide me and tell me that I don’t do anything, I don’t clean enough, I don’t cook dinner enough, etc,” the woman wrote.
She shared that their most significant issue is the care of their baby son.
“I am the main caretaker for our son 99.9% of the time. I get up with him during the night when he wakes up crying,” the woman wrote. “My husband will here or there, but he’ll start screaming at me about how he needs his rest and I need to get up.”
“I’m the one that gets up at 6 am and stays up with our son until about 12 PM-1 PM and that’s when I tell my husband he needs to get up and take care of the baby so I can take a nap,” the woman added.
“Once I get up, he complains that I’ve been sleeping ‘all day’ while he’s been taking care of the baby by himself and I’m lazy.”
Additionally, the woman revealed that she has missed six weeks of work to care for their son while he was sick, meanwhile, her husband did not even notify his supervisor and continued going to work, leaving the woman alone.
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The woman shared that she was recently promoted at her job, while her husband was demoted.
“My husband told me that it’s not a surprise that I made it because my job is easy and all we do is sit at computers all day while he works out in the sun and cold on equipment (I’m in intelligence and he’s got a manual labor job),” the woman wrote.
She revealed that since her husband’s demotion, he’s been spending more time at home playing video games while she works and takes care of the baby.
One night, the woman asked her husband to bathe their baby after she had fed him.
“I already laid out all the baby supplies and clothes for after the bath,” the woman wrote.
However, her husband was playing a video game and refused to pause it.
“My husband told me to “just sit the baby down in the playpen until he’s done with the game,” the woman wrote.
The woman did not back down and told her husband that she would not be adjusting their baby’s schedule to accommodate his video game schedule.
She decided at that moment to pause the internet connection in their apartment.
“My husband flew off the handle, threatening to break my phone and refused to give our son a bath, and called me lazy for not doing it instead,” the woman wrote.
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Many Redditors defended the woman and convinced her to divorce her husband.
“Your husband is a neglectful parent and sounds like an abusive spouse,” one user commented. “You deserve better.”
“Make sure you have proof of his bulls-–t so you can get child support and potentially alimony. Enjoy the rest of your life with your baby,” another user wrote.
“Technically she was parenting two babies... Now she'll only have to look after one,” another user pointed out.
Megan Quinn is a writer at YourTango who covers entertainment and news, self, love, and relationships.