Why Are Geminis So Difficult?

Gemini's good personality traits can be excessive and this can lead to a complex relationship with the Twins.

Geminis can be hard to get along with. You can expect egregious surprises.

They’ll amuse or frighten you. Your time with a Gemini is never dull, for better or worse.

Why are Geminis so difficult?

Gemini is a multilayered zodiac sign. Like skins of an onion, you’ll need to peel each one back before you can properly understand the Twins.

In addition to their inscrutable properties, their main element is independence. They prefer their own choices, to rely on their power even if they’re offered help from a nourishing presence.

For a Gemini to relate to another requires effort not only to accept their behavior but also to reconcile themselves to the limits they would bring to a Gemini’s “range of movement.”

This makes the Gemini uncomfortable in groups and restricting relationships, hence why they become so difficult.

Geminis are known for their intelligence. Whether they come from within or without, they’re dedicated to thinking and reflecting to solve problems. Their intellect is what makes them resourceful and free-ranging, but also difficult.

In addition to Gemini's mental power, their thinking can lead to a virtual stand-still as they rack their brains for answers. Geminis can be indecisive, which can cause them to miss out on opportunities.

For this reason, Geminis hate pressure. They need time for their decisions, and waiting for a Gemini is also difficult.

What are some other ways these Gemini propensities can make your time with them a hellscape of difficulties?

Here's what makes Gemini complicated, per astrology:

Geminis are so difficult because they are always busy.

They’re active and busy. Invariably, it’s either their way or the highway. They’re often stressed after failure or if they can’t convince you of their plans.

But they don’t keep their stress to themselves.

Rather, they project their frustrations on others, transforming otherwise positive environments into inhabitable zones of negative energy.

In addition, Gemini’s nature is dual. This makes cohabitation difficult and unpredictable. Something excites them, they manically spread good vibes: their presence is an inspiration and their companionship comforting.

But like a pendulum, their mood will eventually swing and after indecision or failure, their frustration transforms those good vibes into bad ones.

Finally, since the Gemini is the “their way or the highway” type, convincing them isn’t easy. Since they fall under the air sign, Geminis speak fluidly and intelligently: midway in an argument you might find yourself—much to your surprise—on their side. So, take care. Their verbal gifts are formidable.

Geminis are inconsistent.

Since the Gemini’s mood swings from excitement to frustrating downs, one week they may seem almost kings—promenading on the nightclub floor, the apple to everyone’s eye.

Other times, after frustration and failure they seclude themselves: they won’t take risks—the world’s a scary place. If you’re after them, ready yourself! It’s not going to be easy.

Geminis are independent.

Since Geminis crave their independence, they love solitude. Who’s going to impose a limit on them when they’re alone? Who’s going to smother them until they can hardly move?

Alone time is key for a Gemini recuperate their energy if they’re recovering from a restricting job or an enclosing relationship. So, while you might prefer 24/7 cuddles and kisses, you won’t find this kind of affection here.

Geminis are control freaks.

They must have it their way! As one of the most independent signs of the zodiac tree, they depend on themselves: they must control all the variables however variable. The uncertainty is what they avoid. Ambiguous situations are anathema. If they press into a path, they must think out everything beforehand.

Since they’re not keen on improvising, adventuring with this personality will be difficult. If you’re the type who thrives on spontaneity and whimsical decisions, this type will not be easy to work with.

Geminis love differently.

Geminis are not easy to love either. They crave their independence. If they suspect a relationship may limit them, they flee.

So, you’ll find plenty of barriers if you ever try to coax a Gemini into love: while they may be fun at first, it will be difficult to persuade them to accept the boundaries of a loving and exclusive relationship.

So, words the wise! If you’ve fallen for a Gemini, avoid imposing hard rules: they’re the sure-fire way to push this personality away.

Geminis are a hard shell to crack.

Since they must have it their way, they’re afraid to expose their plans to others: if you disagree, if you introduce frustrating questions that make their plans any less tangible than they already are—they’re easily frustrated.

If you want to get close to them, prepare for a lot of work. You’ll need to build a firm foundation of trust first, and this will take time and will be fraught with all the typical Gemini setbacks!

Nicholas Rodriguez is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture, love and relationship topics.