How Each Of The Zodiac Signs Victimize Themselves
It's easy to do.
getty It’s hard to stay positive when you feel like a victim. Bad things happen to us, but other times we cause those bad things to happen. The difference is in how you view it. If you don’t take responsibility for how you contributed, it might happen again, but you can also feel like you have no control over your life.
If you blame others for what’s going wrong in your life or you believe that the world is an evil place, you are playing the victim. No one enjoys feeling powerless or stuck, but certain zodiac signs in astrology are more prone to victimize themselves to rationalize their prior actions.
If you go around comparing your life to the lives of others and decide that everybody is better off, you can lose hope and stop trying. If someone reaches out and tries to give you advice, you might interpret it as them attacking you or blaming you for your own screw ups.
But we’re not helpless and have ways in which we can change our circumstances. You don’t have to choose to play the victim; instead, you can take action and get out of your funk.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries will tell you that the last thing they'd ever want to do is to victimize themselves. But when they act impulsively and then don't take responsibility for when things go south, that's exactly what they do.
By blaming circumstances and situations for their mistakes, and never taking a hard look at their own part in them, that's not putting oneself into a position of power.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus can be extremely materialistic and will sometimes envy the things other people have. When Taurus gets into a mindset that everybody else is better off than they are, that's a victim mentality.
Sometimes when they are brooding by themselves, it can seem as if they actually enjoy feeling sorry for themselves. Taurus are strong, but sometimes being strong can feel like it's more energy than you have.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Geminis love a good story and they're not above catastrophizing their life — the bad things that happen to them aren't just bad, they're disastrous. The truth is, drama and conflict make for better stories, and Gemini enjoys sharing theirs.
If playing the victim makes them seem more heroic, that's fine. Geminis struggle with anxiety and that can add to their feelings of victimization.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
It's difficult for Cancers to let things go, but constantly reliving past painful memories is the surest way to make yourself feel like a victim. You start to wonder what it is about you that attracts the wrong kind of partner or makes it difficult to get ahead in life.
If you're always looking backward, it's easy to hurt yourself because you're not paying attention to the present.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leos very rarely play the victim, but they'll do it if they feel like they need understanding and sympathy. The problem is that people tend to know that Leos are strong and self-reliant, so they may be reticent to give them the compassion they're looking for, which upsets Leo even further.
Not getting what you want when you're feeling vulnerable can make you feel as if you're the victim of your own making.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Since so many Virgos strive for perfection, they almost set themselves up to victimize themselves. When you're constantly trying to reach the goal of perfectionism, you're always going to end up feeling frustrated when you fail.
When that perfectionism spills over to how you look at other people and you're critical of others, that won't make you feel better about yourself. Instead of aiming for perfection, Virgo needs to work towards compassion of self and understanding of others.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libras tend to compare themselves to others, come up short, and then feel as if they might as well give up as they'll never do as well. Comparison is the thief of joy, as they say, and for Libra, it can make them feel like a huge failure.
Some Libras may have difficulty being assertive, which compounds their feelings of inadequacy and defeat. You're on your own path, Libra, so forget about trying to compete with other people.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpios can be suspicious and not trust others. When they start to believe that other people are intentionally trying to hurt them, they are displaying some of the victim mentality.
Being wary of people is smart, but not trusting anyone is engaging in paranoid-thinking. The world isn't perfect, and it can be scary; however, believing that it's a bad place filled with terrible people who are out to get you is going overboard.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarians are very outgoing and friendly, but they can be very judgmental when it comes to the behavior of others. A Sagittarius is very quick to cut people out of their life rather than trying to work it out.
They tend not to take any responsibility for the failure of the relationship and will put all the failure of it onto the other person. They make new friends with ease but will have moments where they'll wonder why they have such trouble keeping old ones.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
It's Capricorn's attitude that contributes to their victim mentality. They tend to be pessimistic and see their life as lacking or the glass as half full. They may feel like they always must work twice as hard as anybody else, and yet, they still don't advance as quickly as they feel they should.
Capricorns can have tunnel-vision and may resist seeing other perspectives when discussing a problem. When will it finally be their turn to shine?
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
One of the things that can make things more difficult for Aquarius is the fact that they tend to get into arguments easily and have trouble admitting when they're wrong. Aquarians can be cynical and sarcastic, which can put up a wall between them and other people.
They feel misunderstood, but instead of trying to find a middle ground, they'll just write it off as people not having the capacity to fully appreciate their mind.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces victimize themselves because they put themselves down all the time. They beat themselves up when they make a mistake or say something inappropriate.
They secretly have high standards and then expect to fail. They feel lost and don't know what they can do to improve their circumstances, so they get upset and react badly when someone gives them advice or constructive criticism.
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Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and astrology lover. She has written over 500 articles on the zodiac signs and how the stars influence us. She's had articles in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, and is a contributing writer to Ravishly, I AM & CO, and YourTango. Check out her website or and her Instagram.