Why He's The WORST At Flirting, Based On His Zodiac Sign
He's got no game.
weheartit A cheeky smile, a sexy joke, or even a touch on the arm are all ways of flirting. Flirting can be almost anything that has the slightest romantic tinge to it. We flirt because it’s fun and it can get us attention. We flirt to let the other person know that we’re interested in them or that we like them. We flirt to create a connection. And no matter what our horoscope says, we like the feeling it gives us.
For some people, flirting is something that comes to them naturally and may be so ingrained in their personalities that they don’t give much thought to it; flirting is just something they do. Then there are those who must make an effort to flirt and sometimes those efforts have negative results. You thought you were paying someone a compliment but they took it as criticism, or your innocent touch came off as abusive.
If you're bad at flirting, you'll want to watch the video below for tips on learning how to flirt using science:
There are some people who use negative flirting to their own benefit. Instead of asking someone out, they let them know that they’re not interested in dating them which, instead of putting them off, makes them even more intrigued.
People are attracted to the unexpected, confidence and a sense of humor. Being funny can also be flirty. There’s something about a funny person that is appealing and sexy.
But what about the person who has no game and who absolutely sucks at flirting? You have to wonder why they’re so bad at something that should be easy and effortless. Are they overthinking things to the extent that they immobilize themselves or are they assuming that they have a talent in flirting when they absolutely do not?
When a man has confidence issues or may still be recovering from a previous heartbreak, it may be challenging for him to flirt. Flirting, like a muscle, must be used or it will atrophy and make it more difficult as time goes on.
If your man is a flirting failure, astrology may know why. There may be some clue in his zodiac sign about why he sucks at flirting.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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The problem may not be that he's a terrible flirter, it may be that he's such a good flirter that he never stops. He can be flirting with one person and then without any warning, Aries will start flirting with another. Just when you get into some kind of flirting-groove with him, he's on to someone else.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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Taurus over-thinks his flirting so it comes off as forced and overwrought. He wants to be spontaneous and in the moment but he doesn't trust himself or his skills. He needs to loosen up and not take flirting so seriously. It can just be a fun interaction, it doesn't have to mean anything.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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Gemini usually has a whole squad of people that he's flirting with for various reasons, so many, in fact, that he can't remember what he said to whom or what he promised. He gets confused and that's what gets him into trouble. He needs to take notes of his flirtations so that he doesn't make huge problems for himself that he can't solve.
Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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Cancer's flirting method is to meet someone and then start immediately sharing their deepest, darkest feelings. A Cancer is always looking for meaningful connections and when they find a potential one, they want it now. It's an interesting tactic but probably isn't that good to come off as an obsessed stalker to someone you've only just met.
Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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Leo makes everyone to be in love with him so he uses flirting as a way to get more admirers and supporters. His motivation is the same as it is for most things: the more people he has interested in him, the more attention he gets.
Read: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo, As Written By One
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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He sucks at small talk, one of the main components of flirting, and it just goes down from there. Virgo wants to relate on an intellectual level and is too serious for mindless banter.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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Libras tend to be very good flirters which can be a problem when they don't stop their excessive flirting when they're in a relationship. They don't understand how their partner might not like them flirting or how trying to make their partner jealous can sometimes blow up in your face, especially when they interpret your flirting for interest in someone else.
Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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The main motivation for Scorpio's flirtation is sex, so when he doesn't wind up in bed with the person he's been flirting with, it feels like a failure to him. He just can't enjoy the fun of flirting; there has to be a payoff for him or it's a major waste of time, which is why he sucks at flirting. He has an inability to keep things light because of his naturally intense personality.
Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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Sagittarians are best at flirting when they're inebriated. They start out strong when they've had one drink but the more they indulge, the worse at flirting they get until they usually end up making a fool of themselves. If only they just relied on their unbelievably great people skills and left the flirting to someone else. If flirting makes you too nervous to be yourself, then stop,
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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Capricorn uses flirting as a business tactic. He could be flirting with someone while searching the room looking for another person who could help his career in some way. It would be okay if he was a little more graceful in his transitions but he's not. When he sees someone he needs to engage with for business, he'll practically stop flirting mid-sentence and disappear without saying goodbye.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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Aquarius has so many quirks that when he tries to flirt, it's really difficult to tell what he's doing. He's talking about things that no one's ever heard of and he doesn't get why people don't understand what he's doing. It's an exercise in frustration for anyone involved.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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When Pisces is interested in someone, it's hard for them to play it cool. Their way of courting someone is to text them endlessly, email them poems, draw portraits of them, and dedicate full Snapchat stories to them. It can be both overwhelming and a little suffocating. Throttle back, Pisces; you tend to come on way too emo for anyone's comfort.
Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One
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Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and teacher who loves writing and performing personal narratives. She's had pieces in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, Purple Clover, Bustle, and is a regular contributor to Ravishly and YourTango. Check out her website or her Facebook page.