How Your Attitude Ruins Relationships, According To Your Zodiac Sign

The power of attitude is something that we have a tendency to ignore, especially when it comes to relationships. However, if you've been badly hurt in the past or are insecure with yourself or with your significant other, you could have a negative attitude without you even knowing that you do.

Your attitude has a strong effect on your behavior. For example, if you have a very cynical attitude towards dating and relationships, you might have a tendency to make sarcastic and mean remarks toward your partner. You may say that you love and trust him, but your attitude is conveying something quite different.

There are ways that you can express a negative attitude without even being aware that you are. You might lose your temper too often, lack patience, or fly off the handle too easily — all are signs that your underlying attitude isn't good.

One of the major problems with having a bad attitude is that not only does it affect you and your relationship, but it can affect your partner. When you deal with your partner negatively, they can become defensive or hurt by your behavior, your words, and even the tone of which you speak.

Your negative attitude could be the reason that your relationships have a tendency not to work out. How can you come to a compromise if you think that all relationships will end badly anyway?

The good news is that once you're aware that you have a negative attitude, you can change it. One way is to become aware of your automatic thoughts (things that pop up in your head without you deliberately thinking about them) and making a conscious effort to change the negative ones into more positive ones.

If you think, "My boyfriend is going to leave me," try to replace it with, "My new boyfriend is nothing like the previous ones, and I think this relationship is just going to get better and better."

Here's how your attitude ruins relationships according to your zodiac sign.

Aries (March 21 - April 19)

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Aries are fantastic, fun people, but they have the tendency to be self-centered. Your selfishness can damage a relationship quickly. Try to turn your selfishness into selflessness and putting your partner's needs before your own. You definitely care for them, so show it by considering their needs, too. You don't need to neglect your needs entirely, just practice taking someone else's into account as well.

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries, As Written By One

Taurus (April 20 - May 20)

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Taurus, you're great in so many ways — you're warm, loving, and determined. But seriously, when you dig your heels in, you just won't give and that overly-stubborn attitude of yours is not conducive to maintaining a healthy relationship.

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus, As Written By One

​Gemini (May 21 - June 20)

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Is anyone more charming and social than you, Gemini? Everybody likes you, which just feeds into your fear of commitment. If you can get anyone, how do you know that you can't do better than the person you're with? Your attitude of ingratitude for what you've got will get you into trouble every time.

Read: The 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini, As Written By One

Cancer (June 21 - July 22)

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Oh Cancer, so emotional and so loving are you. Unfortunately, you can get really clingy and project an attitude of being overly needy. Try to give your partner some breathing room or you'll suffocate them.

Read: The 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer, As Written By One

Leo (July 23 - August 22)

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It's because you're so amazing that you have an "I can do better" attitude, and you're always comparing your partner to someone else, Leo. If you love someone, you need to love them for their imperfections, and it's not like you're ever going to find someone 100 percent perfect. Focus on how perfectly their imperfections match your own.

Read: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo, As Written By One

Virgo (August 23 - September 22)

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Everything that you touch is immaculate, flawless, and impeccable, Virgo, but the problem is that your hypercritical attitude can kill almost any relationship. Nobody wants to be constantly torn down, especially from someone who supposedly loves them. Instead, try to look for the good all people, especially in your partner. Focus on the good, appreciate it, let them know about it, and repeat.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)

Libra (September 23 - October 22)

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Libra, you're lovely and love to keep things harmonious and balanced. However, instead of letting your partner know when something is bothering you, you'll suck it up until it explodes at an inappropriate time. It's this attitude of not being able to trust people that's problematic. Try to express things that bother you as you go along; expressing your emotions in an adult way shouldn't derail your relationship.

Read: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra, As Written By One

Scorpio (October 23 - November 21)

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You're passionate, smart, and incredibly powerful, Scorpio. You're the mysterious hero of a romance novel, scarily wonderful as long as your partner doesn't lie to you... and then your unforgiving attitude becomes just plain frightening. You know, there are all kinds of lies and it's OK to let the little white lies slide. It's not a big catastrophe if your partner swears they didn't eat the last piece of candy; you can always buy another box.

Read: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio, As Written By One

Sagittarius (November 22 - December 21)

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Sagittarius is one of the most optimistic and freedom-loving signs of the zodiac. It's your "whatever" attitude that damages relationships. Sometimes you really do need to give a crap because when you don't, you seem like an irresponsible jerk.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius, As Written By One

Capricorn (December 22 - January 19)

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Capricorn, with your worker-bee spirit, drive and ambition, you really do make the world go 'round. But your prideful attitude isn't attractive, it's ugly. No, you're not better than everyone around. You're fantastic, but hello! So is your partner, and they'd like you to make them feel good about themselves, not that they just don't measure up.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn, As Written By One

Aquarius (January 20 - February 18)

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There's no one more free-spirited, unique, and original than you Aquarius, but your attitude of detachment is death for a relationship. There's a reason that another way of saying that you're in a relationship is that you're involved with someone. You can't be in a healthy relationship if you're not emotionally invested.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius, As Written By One

Pisces (February 19 - March 20)

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Pisces people are selfless to a fault, and such devoted lovers and friends that it's a problem. Sometimes you can have a lethargic attitude. It's not as if you have to have the biggest accomplishments all of the time, but you have to do something besides dream your day away.

Read: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces, As Written By One