6 Valuable Lessons From One Night Stands
Have you learned anything important from a one-time romp?
The best way to find out how best to cope with things you may not have much experience with is to hear the stories of other people. They've already road tested these bits of advice, so you know they have to have some knowledge involved, right?
After doing a poll on the awkward, exciting, bizarre situation that is the one night stand, we found out lots of advice coincides. Here are the most rational, practical and popular ones!
1. Orgasmic? Not Quite
"Don't expect the big O," said CS, 25. People whom you've just started sleeping with rarely know exactly what you like, so they have no precise idea what will make you experience that big moment quite yet. Don't get disappointed — just enjoy the experience and give instructions when necessary!
2. Wrap It Up
"Always use protection," said PH, 29. This feels like a "duh" piece of advice, but I have heard entirely too many people make excuses. "I didn't have a condom," "I expected him/her to have one," "it was in the moment." Whether or not you like condoms is irrelevant; it's for the safety and best of both your wellbeings.
3. It's Not Really About Good Sex
"There's rarely such thing as a good one night stand because if it was good you'd do it again. So they're not for good sex as much as just a nice reminder that you're desirable," said MH, 26. This is unfortunate, but mostly true. The sex may not be great (though it's very possible that you two have a fantastic time together but just don't feel like pursuing anything physical or emotional further), but it is fun to flirt and then — well, you get the idea.
4. Remember His/Her Name
This is an extremely smart tip — it'll save both of you some seriously awkward embarrassment. MH, 37, had to learn this out the hard way. "If he has an unusual name, try to write it down somewhere or sneak off for a while to practice it. Nothing will make you feel trashier than sitting through the obligatory breakfast racking your brain trying to remember his name."
5. You Don't Need Another Facebook Friend.
"Don't add them on Facebook," warns MT, 22. A one night stand need not be found and friended on Facebook unless it is incredibly clear you two both wish to continue hooking up (or being friends, either way). Soliciting him or her with a friend request — especially if you had to seek through a bunch of pages because you couldn't remember their last name — is weird.
6. Leave In Style
"It's only a 'walk of shame' if you make it so. Strut home," said KE, 27. Don't let anybody make you feel like you should be ashamed of your sexuality. High five yourself on the way out, get a coffee on the way home and relax with your awesome self.
What have you learned from a one night stand?
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