5 Tips For Spending The Night With A New Guy

5 Tips For Spending The Night With A New Guy

5 Tips For Spending The Night With A New Guy

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5 tips for beating stress about spending the night with a new guy.

So you've decided to take the plunge and have a sleepover with the person you're dating. Whether it's actually just sleeping or it's the first time you two do the deed, a first sleepover with someone new can be stressful. Follow these tips for an evening of more fun and less anxiety about the things that could go awry.

1. Primp. If you even suspect that an overnight might be in the cards, we say take the proper grooming precautions i.e. shaving, deodorizing, exfoliation, moisturizing, attractive undergarment selection, or in other words whatever it takes for you to personally feel confident. Male Perspective: Women, Grow Out Your Pubic Hair

2. Pack. Don't worry too much about seeming over-prepared, he probably won't notice if you've brought a toothbrush or deodorant. Purses these days are big enough to hide small children—why not stow an extra pair of underwear or a clean shirt to make you feel less "walk of shame" and even allow you to go straight to work without sending up any red flags at the office?

 

3. Confront your fears. Allowing yourself to fall asleep next to a guy means your body will be out of your control for a few hours and snoring, talking in your sleep, and yes, farting are all very real concerns. Don't drink too much—this will make your body even more out of control during your hours of slumber. If you have issues with gas, face them head-on and bring an antacid or gas inhibitor, at least for peace of mind if nothing else. Also (and this is just a suggestion) maybe hold off on copious amounts of beans or cabbage at dinner. Nothing new on race day, right? And remember, whatever your body does, his probably does worse. Knowing men, he will probably promptly pass out and start sawing logs, totally oblivious to your little sleeping "tics." Can't Sleep While Sharing A Bed?

4. Have an escape plan. If things don't go well or you don't want to be that-person-who-doesn't-take-the-hint-and-overstays-their-welcome, have an excuse you feel comfortable using to get the H out of there. This can be tricky because you don't want to jump the gun and announce you have to go "work," "meet a friend," or "clean your oven" if the possibility of cuddling in bed or getting breakfast together is appealing. Feel it out. If you two are enjoying each other, go with it. But at the same time, you are a busy lady, and if you gotta go, go. Being independent is always empowering.

5. Remember why you're there in the first place. You like this guy right? The name of the game is to have fun and connect with someone. Also, most guys worry that we think they are filthy slobs and well, many of them are. So while we may worry about keeping our bodies under perfect control, he might be shy about his sink full of dishes, mildew-prone shower or choice of decor. So prepare as best you can, then forget about being perfect and just be in the moment; excessive self-consciousness will only get in the way of enjoying each other anyway! Top 5 Bedroom Mood-Killers

Have you ever had a mortifying first-time sleepover experience? How about a pleasant surprise?