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Two Different Views Of Nudity

How do you feel about getting naked in front of other people?

Two nudism stories this week give a differing view points on spending time in the buff. Over on the Daily Beast (found through Smitten) Arianne Cohen wrote about going to a nudist dinner party. Guests stripped down as they arrived and sat on hand towels provided by the host. Cohen kept her legs closed but some of the (ahem) ballsier guests weren't so modest. Although Cohen didn't become a convert (the "dinner guests seemed free, getting a dopamine high off the rarity of what we were doing. I was not high."), she does bring up several interesting points.

Part of the taboo of being naked in casual situations is that people aren't used to separating nudity from sexuality. Disrobing in the presence of others usually means you're about to get it on, making you sexualize your and the other person's bodies. Your think about how pert your breasts are, how it will feel to touch the hair on his lower back. Of course, nudity doesn't have to be like that. According to Cohen, the naked dinner wasn't erotic at all.

There was no sexual vibe. Through three courses of Indian food, I found that my need to check out men’s packages had passed in its entirety, and that skin is just another set of clothes.

Jack Murnighan's essay on Nerve highlights the eroticism of everyday nakedness. In a piece called "Urban Naturists," (subscription required) he writes about the flashes of skin he sees, and provides, to his New York City neighbors through the windows of their respective apartments. "The transgression, the furtive access of the glimpse, renders tantalizing bodies and bits that, on a date, might be underwhelming." Two settings, two completely different views of nudism in the home.

Murnighan ends his essay with what surely must be the appeal of nudism:

Clothes can be shed, they can be sloughed, they can be shucked, dropped, lifted, un-zipped, -button or -tied, but most of all they can be escaped, leaving behind your day, your life, your vanity, your artifice.

Do you go naked in your home? Do you always close your blinds? Would you ever go to a naked dinner party? How do you feel about nudity in general? Let us know in the comments.

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Lolita Single It all feels good.
Posted November 15, 2008

I went to a nudist beach once, and for the first five minutes I was comparing myself to others, thinking oh at least I am better looking than that person, but then after a while I realized, we were all different and no one cared. I would definitely go back, it made me a lot more accepting of what I view as my own faults...cellulite, no hips, etc.

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Alex Complicated No nonsense about love!
Posted November 14, 2008

I realized walking around naked with my boyfriend helped me feel more comfortable in and out of clothes.

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LeMaster Married I was born ready.
Posted November 13, 2008

The real allure of nakedness is that you are getting to the essential person. there is no way to be physically closer than being near someone's skin.

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Kataroo Single Glass half full girl.
Posted November 13, 2008

I love what Arianne Cohen says, why do we have to sexualize skin?

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ProudMary Starting Over
Posted November 13, 2008

because it is sexual and there isn't anything wrong with that.

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