Is my boyfriends friendship with his ex justified?

Published on December 25, 2012 by meerkat0208

I have been with my boyfriend for a year now and it has been up and down. The main reason is because of his ex. When we first started dating I still spoke to my ex boyfriend and he still spoke to his ex but then our relationship started to become more serious and it began to bother me. Since this I have not spoken to my ex but his ex girlfriend has continued to ring him and he has answered a few times. I admit that I have made it hard for us as it bothers me so much (i.e. checking his phone/facebook constantly). He says that he does not answer or return phone calls but why does she keep phoning? After months of this I told him to tell me the truth about what he wanted from their friendship. She cheated on him towards the end of their 3 year relationship (I know this is a long time as I was in a long term one to) and he says he wants to be civil, remove any grudges so that it is easier if they end up going out with mutual friends, I understand this however he has lied to me on a couple of occasions about a text she has sent or a phone call. one time he even went to see her, in a group with a friend, to speak to her face about patching things up. This really upset me as it was a lie yet he says he did this so it was a mature, face to face conversation and he didn't know how to tell me straight away. It also does not help that I asked him not to give her a new number for a works phone but he still phoned her from it and then said he didn't think? I know it may all sound pathetic but it is really forcing us apart. I do not know if I should fully trust him or how to restore the trust I have lost and even if I have completely over reacted.